He’s just not that in to you…


Goody and DebbieIt's funny, sometimes when I start writing a blog it's often an amalgamation of highlights and funnies. And just occasionally a theme begins to emerge…

This week, I are been mostly contemplating the 'fillum' – 'He's Just Not That Into You.'

Also this week…
– Cinderella, or 'Cendrillon' – opera with Kathy Burke (or maybe not!)
– 'The Iron Lady' – sooooooooooooo good! And 'The Artist' – faaaaaaab!
– And girls, what are we LIKE?!!
– Plus a couple of funnies from the last week or so on air

"Oh what a circus, oh what a show!"
Now here's a 'TiFFT'* for you! Never done this one before! As mentioned in last week's blog, on Monday, pal (model Goody) and I went to Wimbledon Odeon to watch – in the cinema – the Royal Opera House production of 'Cendrillon' – Cinderella. In the cinema!

Three hours long, complete with 20 minute interval (just time to nip out for kebab – don't ask! Classy birds eh? lol!) Well, how… unusual… it was! If you crossed a panto with an episode of 'Ab Fab', and a top class opera, you'd have an idea of the spectacle that we beheld on the big screen.

I've got to say I'm so glad I went, as the singing was incredible, as you can imagine, and there were a lot of very clever and very funny actor/singers, and set pieces – the stepmother and ugly sisters were superb. And it was amaaaazing being able to understand the words in an opera for the first time ever! (subtitles, natch!). But there were two things that made it more memorable than maybe they intended it to be πŸ™‚

Firstly, as you're probably aware, when an actor emotes on the stage, most of the audience are far away, so their gestures are deliberately larger than life. Film that in close up, and you have a style of big screen entertainment which sometimes makes you feel like you're watching a gurning contest, with the performers over-exaggerating their facial expressions as they reach the high notes and wrap their mouths around the words.

Secondly, since I guess many of the best opera singers are of a certain age, the casting was a little… unexpected, shall we say! Cinderella was about 40, albeit lovely, and an amazing voice (mind you, they could have chosen a more flattering dress than the bare shoulder, corsetted one they stuck the poor woman in  – I'VE seen the old Ladybird story book – their's was a lot better! lol). Prince Charming was – I swear! – Kathy Burke a la 'Kevin and Perry'!

Her wig was distractingly bad in close up, and the lovely opera singer's attempts at acting manly in her awkward suit might have worked from a distance on a stage, but in 20 foot close up on the screen, it simply left us struggling to contain ourselves, specially in the kissing scenes, where the 'Prince' seemed to be getting a bit carried away! Watch this clip!

And as for the Fairy Godmother – she was pure genius. I'm not sure what show she thought she was in – one all of her own it seemed! They intended her to be a 'punk' style godmother, but she was vampy and over-sexy (whilst not the youngest fairy in town), spilling out of her dress and sashaying across the stage completely stealing every scene and gurning in true operatic splendour at every aria! Magic, pure magic. Am soooo glad we went.

Quite a packed audience, many of them regulars, and there'll be a whole stack of similar performances – including theatre and ballet in the months to come – am sure Goody and I will be there as often as we can! And if you'd like to start joining me on the TiFFT's for 2012 – it all starts here – no matter how small, or big, leave me a comment each month when you've done something you've never done before – inspire us all, or make us smile, OK?!

(P.S. In the pic of me and Goody above, the dress I'm wearing is coming up soon on air at a really super price – see below!)

He really couldn't give a s**t… I mean, 'He's Just Not That Into You'…
Now where does this all fit in with the aforementioned 'theme', I hear you say? Well, if you haven't watched the movie 'He's Just Not That Into You', before I explain my theme, let me fill you in.

The 2008 film starring Jennifer Aniston, Ben Affleck and Bradley Cooper is a masterpiece of comedy, an observation of mating games, and a true education. Enlightenment is at hand in 90 minutes worth of bite-sized chunks, for those of us naive enough to keep making the same mistakes. Which mistakes? The ones most of us have made at some stage in our lives – like continual excuses as to why a guy doesn't text/Facebook/email/call/turn up/respond/tweet/want to see us again.

I do believe this film should be required viewing for every female! To 'unlearn' everything anyone's ever conspired to impart, ladies, in an effort to convince us that a man is really, truly, deep down, interested – when he's actually… just not. As Alex, the main guy character says (Justin Long – superb), 'No matter what he said, if a guy hasn't called, or he's acting like he couldn't give a 's**t', it's because he really couldnt give a s**t.'

Gigi, the main heroine, rings bells for those of us who at some time or other have been kidding ourselves, sucked into the excuse-filled illusion that there's actually a bona fide reason (I laughed when they listed 'he's lost his phone') they haven't called. Kidding ourselves along and similarly being kidded by conspiritorial peers/family/colleagues/best friends (especially the married ones!). It's blinking hilarious at times, and painfully honest at others. I bet we all know a Gigi! Happy endings abound, as you'd expect, and there were more than a few 'tissue' moments along the way, so be prepared!

Anyway, there was I, having just watched this film, and discussed it with several mates who are all trying to move on from someone who doesn't make enough effort, when all of a sudden there was Prince blooming Charming showing us exactly what a man does when he wants a woman – he chases around the kingdom looking for 'she whose foot the slipper fits'! That's what he does! I jest, but actually doesn't it bring it all home? If he's not willing at least to contact us, let alone chase halfway across the county with a glass shoe, move on!

SO – If there are any guys out there, who wish to comment below, to affirm what Scarlett Johannson et al discover, I'd love to hear from you! Or girlies, have you had any similar experiences, till you finally discovered he's just not, well, that into you? Basically. Anyway, fab film, eight and three quarters out of ten. Get it on DVD if you can!

Solo cougar's survival kit – what do you suggest I should add to the list?
Talking of such things… calling all more 'mature' ladies back on the dating game?! OK, girls, now I've got your attention, listen up. Living alone whilst seeking a partner (with GSOH, own teeth and no baggage)? Yes?

Well don't you find that sometimes you come across a brilliant product that solves a problem that you'd normally need someone else, often male, to solve for you? Whilst we await our very own 'Prince Charming' (preferably one without the Perry wig!), which of these indispensible items should us 'cougars' (not my term, honest!) acquire – to make life just a little bit easier? I thought it'd be fun to come up with a list – let me know what else you would add, by commenting at the bottom of this blog!
Morphy Richards Luxury Heated Reversible Fleece Blanket
First, it'd have to be the electric throw that's been keeping me warm over Christmas – we do a Morphy Richards one – OMG I swear the bed's magnetic – and it means no more needing something warm to put my cold feet (or bottom!) on!

Then of course the clever Kuhn Rikon jar (and can) opener set I recently Kuhn Rikon Ultimate Jar & Can Opener Setbought when it was a TSV. My hands aren't that strong so this clever gadget means that no jar will defeat me ever again if no-one's around to help open it!

And my third suggestion for the 'solo cougar' survival kit (better than saying 'single's survival kit!') would be… a dog! Or four! πŸ˜‰

Debbie and her four pogsThey never argue about what to watch on the telly, never cause hassle over the loo seat, and always give affection unconditionally – that's what we need, eh ladies! Lol.  And when you've had enough of them, you can just throw them, outside in the yard for a few hours! hehe! Tell me below what else you think should go on this list? What else can't you do without that really helps you if you live alone?

Next week – Valentine's Day is just around the corner – shall I work the evening? Or make myself go to a singles thing for once?

Snippets – some other highlights of my Debbie week!
Joy Salem and Debbie– Joy Salem's magic fingers. A lovely lady called Joy in Radlett – a pal of Craig's – invited me over for a treatment session – involving galvanic therapy which I'm a big fan of, and some very vigorous manual lymphatic drainage on my face – felt 'well-poggered' afterwards, and definitely think it made a difference round my jawline, certainly for the next few shows on air afterwards. Thanks Joy! 

Lauren's flowers– Lauren's flowers. Valentine's Day not far away and a big bouquet turns up on my doorstep. Well I'm puzzled to say the least! But when I opened them, it was from my lovely Lollipop, who lives away in Bath, who was missing her mum and just thought she'd send me some flowers – made me feel super-special I can tell you! Especially 'cos I was having a bit of a 'down day' – thanks Lauren, you're lovely!
Silly blackbird!- Silly bird update: 
-  still there
– still pecking
– still mad!

– 'This week I are been mostly using'…  my brilliant Intelliboil eco-kettle! It boilsMorphy Richards Intelliboil Jug Kettle water to a lower temperature – eg. 95 degrees for instant coffee – saving energy into the bargain. Superb!

WATCH – 'The Iron Lady'. What a chronicle of our time this film is! Looooved the superb superb genius performance by Meryl 'my hero' Streep. I'd watch any film she's in and was gratified to witness yet another stellar acting job in this one. Faultless. No wonder she's been nominated for so many awards!

It's less about glorifying the Iron Lady Margaret Thatcher and her achievements, it's more about showing how a woman made it through a man's world, and the considerable downside, but the overriding impression is that Meryl's simply magnificent. Excellent supporting cast too including playing Carol Thatcher and Denis, and tons of well-known Brits heading up the all-star cast for the cabinet, including Anthony 'Gold Blend' Head and John Sessions amongst others! A clear eight and half out of ten. To see it on DVD would be fine tho'.

WATCH #2 – 'The Artist'. Well, as I said on Facebook this week, two Golden Globes well earned for this amazingly groundbreaking film. If you love cinema, definitely go for the sheer experience of a true silent movie. And there really are silences too – frequent pin drop ones, amidst the genial laughter and pleasant reactions from the audience. (Ironic that the classic, Gene Kelly's 'Singing in the Rain' was a talky about the demise of silent movies, whereas this one is a silent movie about the advent of talkies!)

It's a gentle film – funny, witty, clever, and unusual. Funny how the brain fills in the gaps! Just like with a book, where written words are transformed into the most amazing pictures in your head, so with a silent movie somehow your mind fills in the dialogue gaps and gives them voices and sounds – fascinating!

Not taxing but quite a sensory experience, so a good 8 out of ten. See it in the cinema on a packed nigh t for an old school theatrical release feeling. All that was missing was the live orchestra… πŸ™‚
P.S. my film pal Nige thought it was 'awesome, *******g awesome!' What will you think? Let me know.
Next week – probably – 'Margin Call' (how can I not see that film given my finance jobs during the sub-prime crisis!), although 'Shame' (Fassbender/Mulligan) and 'J Edgar' (diCaprio) – and 'W.E.' (Wallis Simpson time-slip love story) – are all calling me!

P.S. without it being too film-biased this week, a quick mention for another one to watch out for  – 'Limitless' – on DVD – starring Bradley Cooper. (It was also on Sky Movies last time I looked!). It's a really satisfying film – superbly directed – a super-intelligent script and wonderful, unpredictable plot – loved it. Highly rated 8 and three quarters from me.

And one from the old classics which was on TV – a truly touching love story with a younger Meryl Streep (again – OK, I'm biased!) and an amazingly romantic slightly younger Clint Eastwood, in 'Bridges of Madison County' – loved it. Nine out of ten. Again, tissues at the ready if you manage to rent or download it! And not to put too fine a point on it, but again showing what a man will do if he truly wants to be with a woman! Nuff said! πŸ™‚

Will GowingQVC – QTechnology Weekend this weekend in selected hours – see Will Gowing's update for more info!

And look out on Friday 27th January – put it in your diary if you like bargains – in my evening Tiana B show there will be a veeeeery special – temporary – price on that dress I'm wearing in the pic of me and Goody above! Say no more! πŸ˜‰

And finally, here as promised are the couple of funnies that happened over the last week or so on QVC shows – enjoy!

Have a lovely week guys – and do remember to leave me a comment below – specially if you're new or you haven't left one for ages!

*Try it for the First Time' club – do something different every month that you've never done before!


  1. Michelle Roberts January 20, 2012 at 2:34 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debs
    Some very interesting items on this weeks blog. I was laughing about the opera a few years ago mum and I decided we would try and get a little more culture so to speak so I booked to see “Figaro” having never seen a opera,in the end four of us went including my Auntie and mother-in-law after the first hour I turned to check everyone was ok and my mum and mother-in-law had both nodded off still with another two hours to go!!! Not a great success I must admit it was hard going if I ever hear the word “Figaro” again I swear I will scream!!! So I’m afraid opera is a NO NO in our house.
    My*Try it for the First Time*Club- this month was only a short drive up and down the drive on the back of my Dad’s Harley Davidson which he spent the last few months doing up- it was fantastic, the bike is twenty years old it’s just about to go for a MOT so if it passes will be definitely going for a ride again AWESOME!!!!
    Hey what a lovely daughter you have I often like to surprise my mum with little things, us daughters have to look after our mums because they are very special indeed!!!
    Loving all the film reviews I have a Friday night date with Hubby to see the Artist film followed a fish and chip supper !!! I have been a bit unwell this week with one thing and another so looking forward to this.
    Hope you have a good week Debs.
    Huge Hug
    Michelle x

  2. Lisa January 20, 2012 at 3:12 pm -  Reply

    Happy new year Debs! Great to see you are keeping up the brilliant blogs! I have two burning questions I hope you can help with – the first is, I’m in love with the pink, leopard print 3/4 sleeve dress you wore for the Northern Nights Outlet show on Friday 20th Jan, it looked fab on you, can you tell me who it is by pretty please as I’d love to get one? And my second question – how did your friend the gorgeous QVC model Goody get her unusual name, I am intrigued? Thanks and keep up the good work! Lisa. X

  3. debs f January 20, 2012 at 5:25 pm -  Reply

    Lisa – it’s from the print fusion show – it was item 15 in the 1pm hour today (20th) so do ask the operator and they’ll find item number for you! Avail in green as well! I rarely wear pink so was happy to find it flattered me and Craig thought it looked lovely! Ta so much for commenting too – nice to hear from you!
    ps Goody’s maiden name was – Jane Goody!

  4. debs f January 20, 2012 at 5:26 pm -  Reply

    michelle – let me know what you think of the Artist hon! And well done you for getting on a Harley! One of my aims too – sometime! NB Have you tried arnica? Just wondering – just did a SBC show – some great reviews on people with arthritis loving it.

  5. Susan January 20, 2012 at 5:48 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debs,
    I have to tell you how hilarious that video is of you on the machine!!! If anyone hasn’t seen it then flipping watch it!! You’re a hoot Debs! How lovely of Lauren to send you flowers too. I’ve done that for my Mum and it really does make someone’s day.
    Have a nice weekend,
    Susan x

  6. martin forbes January 20, 2012 at 6:37 pm -  Reply

    hi debbie still enjoying your blogs happy new year.hope you are well

  7. martin forbes January 21, 2012 at 1:11 pm -  Reply

    hi debs enjoying your blog

  8. Nigel January 21, 2012 at 5:48 pm -  Reply

    Debs – Thank your lucky stars that QVC don’t do glass slippers on easy pay otherwise you might be inundated !lol!
    That silly blackbird will be worn out before the ‘birds and the bees’ even begins! Must be a lesson in there somewhere.What do the pogs think of him ?
    At this rate you’ll be reporting from Glyndebourne this summer – do you ever slow down ?
    You and the pogs take care,Nige πŸ™‚

  9. Debs f January 22, 2012 at 1:14 pm -  Reply

    Susan – I just had to throw myself into it – no choice, considering what the camera angle made it look like! Lolol. Was truly good fun machine tho! Glad u enjoyed the clip!, x

  10. Louise January 22, 2012 at 9:14 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debs
    I know I don’t usually post blogs in such quick succession, but I wonder if you could clear something up for me? I am aware of the definition of the word ‘modal’ – to do with manner, mode or form – but why are certain iyems in the yong kim fashion range, such as leggings, described as modal?
    Thanks Debs.

  11. Anita Anderson January 22, 2012 at 11:01 pm -  Reply

    TIFFT’s for 2012: January – went to see a pantomime!

  12. debs f January 24, 2012 at 4:02 am -  Reply

    martin – thanks , hope you’re well too!

  13. debs f January 24, 2012 at 4:03 am -  Reply

    Nigel – more witty comments! I do like that type! Yes, bird is gone now – pogs chased him off a few times! Glass slippers – how funny! least they wouldnt smell! lolol

  14. Steven January 24, 2012 at 6:59 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debs just wanted to add you and Susie both looked great in that vid. The machine one is funny too.
    Fabulous blog as always
    Take care x

  15. debs f January 24, 2012 at 11:43 pm -  Reply

    Susan = thanks for asking – it’s actually (as I learned from Claire and lovely Ingrid Tarrant) a manufactured fabric like rayon, but from naturally occuring polymers, so it’s neither a truly synthetic nor a natural fibre (thanks wiki! lol) – it’s from a natural bark-derived origin – soft like viscose – holds colour well, durable, washes well at lower temps (mineral deposits from hard water dont stick to the fibres), resistant to shrinking and pilling, etc! And really soft and easy wear next to skin! Try it! : – )

  16. debs f January 24, 2012 at 11:45 pm -  Reply

    Louise = thanks for asking about Modal – it’s actually (as I learned from Claire and lovely Ingrid Tarrant) a manufactured fabric like rayon, but from naturally occuring polymers, so it’s neither a truly synthetic nor a natural fibre (thanks wiki! lol) – it’s from a natural bark-derived origin – soft like viscose – holds colour well, durable, washes well at lower temps (mineral deposits from hard water dont stick to the fibres), resistant to shrinking and pilling, etc! And really soft and easy wear next to skin! Try it! : – )

  17. debs f January 24, 2012 at 11:46 pm -  Reply

    Anita – really? Never been to a panto before? Hope it was a good one! Was it what you expected? and which one was it? Thanks for writing! Do keep me informed about your TiFFT’s!

  18. debs f January 24, 2012 at 11:47 pm -  Reply

    Steven – why thank you kind sir! lol.
    What bits are your favourite? Do you often see movies?

  19. Steven January 25, 2012 at 6:32 pm -  Reply

    I liked the bit when you were talking about your solo cougar. I honestley can’t believe you are single. You seem like a great laugh
    Steven x

  20. Susanne Fitzpatrick January 26, 2012 at 2:00 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debbie
    Do you know that the Lee Child’s book ‘One Shot’ is being made into a film, starring Tom Cruise? Life doesn’t get any better…
    You’re fab on TV and look better all the time.

  21. Jackie Cross January 26, 2012 at 4:54 pm -  Reply

    Was feeling a bit grumpy today, not anymore, just looked at your clips, sooooooooooooooo funnnnyyyyyyy, definately ‘kevin & perry’ lookalike, keep up the good work. So glad your on QVC, its so lovely to have a down to earth presenter with a great sense of humour, and another plus point is that you are the same size as me, so I now know what the fit is like. Keep up the giggling, its great. πŸ˜€

  22. Debs f January 30, 2012 at 11:35 am -  Reply

    Jackie – oh god I know those days! Had one myself lately – glad I helped u out of yours! Lol
    Also happy to know us curvy girls r sticking together! Long live spanx ! X

  23. David Warren June 2, 2012 at 8:18 am -  Reply

    Jane Goody is a lovely person. I knew her well back in the 1970’s and she still looks incredible.
    Give her my regards and love.
    With regards and best wishes from David Warren

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