Refusing to grow old – gracefully or otherwise


So much has been happening lately. The most pressing of which has been multiple trips to the dentist in the last week or two. What seemed to be an initially minor issue has suddenly taken on gargantuan proportions, which means that at the moment I am looking at a lot of major work over the next year which may, or may not, result in me having to wear braces for a time!

I have always been lucky with my teeth, in respect of the fact that I have never had any issues with them as an adult. Somehow though I feel like I am now in dental Armageddon! Well, it feels that way, but I am sure I am slightly overstating the situation. Only slightly though.

To make matters worse I also had booked in an overdue eye test only to be told that I have ‘middle-aged’ eyesight! I’m not sure what that means exactly but I do know that it means they expect me to wear my glasses more often and those glasses have become a lot more expensive by virtue of the types of lenses my now ‘middle-aged’ eyes need.

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Perhaps I am a glutton for punishment but I am also booked in for a hearing test next week. Heaven only knows what they will tell me about that as everything else seems to be failing at the moment. My dear old dad wore hearing aids – gulp! It’s not all doom and gloom though. About two weeks ago I was very fortunate to be able to go and see acting legend Glenn Close perform in Sunset Boulevard at The Coliseum here in London.

I had never seen the show before and when I heard last October that Glenn would be performing I popped on to the Internet and booked a couple of tickets for a matinee and invited my friend Lisa to keep the date free.

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By the time it came around a couple of weeks ago, I had almost forgotten I’d booked it. If I hadn’t had the presence of mind to tell my friend the date it may possibly have gone by without us ever going. I have a goldfish memory, you see – I always have done (it’s nothing to do with my age, let’s just be clear about that!). When the big day arrived there had been some talk in the press about Glenn having been unwell and her understudy going on in her place which is generally a disappointment.

However, all the press reviews were saying how outstanding the understudy was so I didn’t really mind if we got her, though I did really want to see a Hollywood star perform, particularly as she was making her West End debut and as she had received so many rave reviews, as well as a Tony Award, when she performed the role in Los Angeles and on Broadway more than 20 years ago.

For those of you not familiar with Sunset Boulevard, it’s a musical is based on the Billy Wilder film of the same name, which tells the story of Norma Desmond, the dethroned queen of the silent movie era, who longs to play the part of Salome. Considered to be well past her prime (at only 50!) by Hollywood, Norma still believes she has a lot left to give. As it turns out she is completely deluded in that belief, but nonetheless still believes in herself despite what everyone else says.

Considering in the last week alone I have been told I have middle-aged eyesight and the dental debacle I have been enduring (plus my goldfish memory) I am starting to know how Norma Desmond feels. For a moment I kept thinking I was getting really old and past it and then I thought to myself, “Hold a minute, get over yourself, you are only 45 years old! You’ve been wearing glasses, since you were 7 years old. You weren’t old when they told you you needed specs then and you’re not old now!”

Just like Norma, I’ve decided that I am refusing to let other people dictate when I am old, or even middle-aged for that matter. I’ll decide that for myself.

If this is the start of people telling me that I am geriatric just because my hair is going grey, my glasses have varifocal lenses and my memory is going, then I say they better tell me a little louder  – as my hearing is going too!

Seriously though, when does it become OK for other people to start telling you you’re past it?! Answer: NEVER! So don’t accept it if it is happening to you. If you think you can do something, if you believe you can do it, or, if you just plain and simple WANT to do something, nobody should tell you that you can’t just because you are getting older. I plan to be a wrinkly rebel when I get old – because I am not old yet, despite what some people are trying to say! Just like Norma Desmond, I am going to keep on believing I can do whatever I put my mind to! Who’s with me?

Until next time,

Miceal. Xxx


  1. Jill May 20, 2016 at 4:39 pm -  Reply

    Ah Miceal… You are just having a maintainance period! We all go through it at some point. Remember you are more worldly wise, life experiences are what build us as a person, age is just a number !! Sill a great guy! X

  2. Andrea Egan May 20, 2016 at 7:59 pm -  Reply

    Oh bless you are only a pup at the moment wait till you get nearing 70 (like me) then you will start to worry. Trouble is in my mind I’m 45 and get such a shock every morning when I look in the mirror lol

  3. Isabel Lindsay May 21, 2016 at 12:44 pm -  Reply

    Such a great blog Miceal. I love your honesty. You are not old! Only 45 years young. My mum had a hearing aid too & I often wonder if I will go the same way but we shouldn’t worry about what the future will bring…what will be will be. Keep chasing your dreams Miceal. Your zest for life is infectious. I wish you all the very best for the future.

  4. Jennifer Cann May 21, 2016 at 4:23 pm -  Reply

    well said Miceal, age is just a number

  5. Gillian Lee May 21, 2016 at 10:22 pm -  Reply

    Hi Miceal just read your blog on growing old how right you are I turned 60 on the 17 May this year my family and I are celebrating. this in grand canaria as we speak. I was told at a very young age that I would have a short life span this was at 15 years of age I have a spine problem called scoliosis and as the years have passed is very painful and I use a wheelchair now. I was told at 40 I would not reach 50 then at 54 I was told I would not reach 60. Well here I am with no lines to speak of my skin is lovely my husband is very proud of me as is my family I have 4 grandchildren I done on I buy everything including my skincare from QVC and I intend to fight these specialists as long as I can. So don’t let anyone ever tell you you can’t do something or your middle-aged your as old as you feel and look my nurse recently thought I was 40 how good is that ha ha . Enjoy life to the full

  6. Vanessa Tatlock May 21, 2016 at 11:50 pm -  Reply

    Hi Micael, just read your ‘Refusing to grow old’ blog. You are such a treasure. You always cheer me up. You are such a positive person. Love you to bits x

  7. Fran Whitehead May 22, 2016 at 1:31 am -  Reply

    What a funny blog Miceal.
    So did you and your middle-aged eyesight enjoy the show did you get to see Glenn perform? Many years ago my mum had my young sister when she was 37yrs old and was classed as a geriatric Mum!
    I don’t envy your visits to the dentist they frighten the bejesus out of me.
    Now as for a wrinkly rebel….wash your mouth out. Alison Y will be having words 🙂 x

  8. Kay May 22, 2016 at 7:57 am -  Reply

    Thankyou! I have been awake for ages trying to reconcile myself to the fact that at 81 and with my partner of 40 years now nearing 84 life is understandably getting a bit harder!!!
    Then I read your blog and realised its all just a state of mind ..well nearly all of it and
    we just have to get up and get on with it!
    Good luck with your teeth, I still have most of mine so keep on brushing.
    Varifocals are good, as long as you take them off to walk downstairs!!
    Hearing… well unless you are missing invitations or the call supper you probably are not missing much these days!
    So good luck and keep up the good work, we enjoy your company in our sitting room.
    Best wishes , Kay

  9. veronica May 22, 2016 at 11:33 pm -  Reply

    Miceal – age is but a number,chick be gratefull for the days as many dont make it to 45. The great Betty Davis said aging is not for Siseys! and she was right. Take care of yourself & your right, its what you believe about yourself thats important….go get em tiger xx vee

  10. Anne Harper May 26, 2016 at 10:10 pm -  Reply

    I turned 60 in November and told myself how lucky I was to reach this number still happily married to the same man have two beautiful clever children both married. I have an amazing 3 year old granddaughter and a fit 85 year old mother. My husband and I have just returned from Australia where we climbed Sydney Harbour Bridge among other things.
    However people keep asking me why at my age am I still working? I work 4 hours a day as a school secretary, get all the holidays but they keep saying things like “you can’t need the money? You should be retiring now you’re 60. Why would you still want to work”?
    Until these comments I never thought about retiring and never thought I was old however I’m feeling less confident and feel under pressure to retire.
    It’s strange how people are obsessed with other people’s ages. We all have to age( if we are lucky enough).
    Anyway I would never have thought you were 45.

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