Valentine's Day is a lovely, yet funny old day isn't it? When I was single it seemed like the entire world was in love and I was the only one who wasn't… and now I fall into the old married couple category – the secret admirer is not quite so secret even when he tries to disguise his writing!
I feel a touch sad that the thrill of Valentine's in the past are gone, yet more than a touch relieved that I have a guaranteed Valentine if that makes sense! Though I recall a few years when I was without a card from Dan and felt decidedly miffed!
These days our Valentine evenings are usually spent at home. There is actually something quite weird about sitting in a restaurant alongside a variety of other couples all desperately wanting to people watch whilst working out who's dating, who's happy and who's not, and hoping that you're positively exuding love and happiness even if you've had a huge row. What massive pressure? Perhaps that's why Dan and I stay in!
Valentine's Days gone by…
One year when the whole pressure of life and love was full on I remember us both being scratchy and grumpy with each other, so Dan disappeared to Tesco and bought delicious food whilst I filled the dining room with candles. We both switched our moods and lo and behold a romantic evening ensued.
I remember one year being pregnant and decorating our lounge – Dan arrived with a beautiful meal, which we ate off our laps. It wasn't the most romantic of surroundings but the effort Dan made for me was so lovely. So, it's the 'who' and not the where that makes Valentine's nights special.
This year's plans…
This year, even though I've booked a few days off so that Dan and I could disappear down to Southwold just to be together it doesn't look as though it'll happen. In fact he was trying to pack me off to Mummy's that night! Cheeky boy… that's Dan all over, unaware of days and dates until the last minute. I will head on down to visit my Mummy with the children on the Monday, so that still leaves the Sunday evening!
It's funny I have a friend who goes out of his way NOT to celebrate on the days where he say's you are forced to – he prefers to surprise on others, wonderful! And yes his wife has had THE most divine surprises. However, I for one will never forget her face when on her 30th birthday she opened a…shopping trolley! I wonder what he'll be doing this Valentine's Day.
Do you know Valentine's Day really boils down to reminding ourselves, amidst the chaotic fast pace of life, that YES I love you and I want to be with you. I appreciate all the things you are and do and yes… I still want to ravish you!
Writing this made me wonder about a lovely lady who wrote on my blog last year. She had been on her own for 10 years and last year red roses and a card arrived at 8am from a gentleman she had known many years. He too was now alone – I wonder if love blossomed? I'd so love to know, and so hope it has.
With love from the ever romantic (even amongst the chaos).