With Mother’s Day just around the corner, I thought it would be a great opportunity for us to share a bit of motherly wisdom. My Mum has had a rough old ride right from when she was a child and then to top it off, she had a stroke when she was in her 40s which left her paralysed down one side but despite everything, she’s been my rock and I adore her. I have definitely picked up some of her phrases over the years and often hear myself passing them down the chain so, time to celebrate and reminisce, here goes with my top five most memorable phrases that Mum used to say…
It’s the hours before midnight that count
I used to battle her on this one when I was younger however she couldn’t have been more right! I honestly do not know how people function on low sleep. I need between 8 and 9 hours and I really struggle the next day if I don’t get them, or if I did but they have been after midnight (fortunately they rarely are!). So just call me Cinderella, I’m nearly always home (and in bed!) before the clock strikes 12!
Always check your “rear view” in the mirror
My Mum was a really skilled dressmaker and had buckets of style so I always paid attention to her advice in this area. This particular phrase has always stuck with me. It’s not the easiest of angles to check though is it? She used to make most of my clothes growing up, we would spend hours choosing patterns and fabrics in the local haberdashery, markets and one of my fondest memories is on holiday in France, when she took me shopping into little boutiques, I LOVED my pedal pushers from that trip! I think I learned from a very early age that I could stamp my sense of individuality out through what I wore and that it was a safe place to be able to express yourself.
If you’ve got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all
I love this one and it’s definitely one that I find myself reciting to the children. I think it’s more prevalent now than ever as through social media, words can often be thrown around quite thoughtlessly. It’s a very tame example but my brother came for lunch this weekend and brought me a box of chocolates, ones that the children know I really don’t like at all. I was thrilled that they both kept their mouths firmly shut rather than dropping me right in it by letting him know how I really feel about them. Some things can and should be left unsaid!
You reap what you sew
This is another one I reel off to my children, I think it’s an excellent one. In relationships, in life, in work, in everything pretty much, you get out what you put in. “Simples”. My Mum used to say it until she was blue in the face, I don’t think it meant much to us in the moment but it’s definitely stuck. I think sometimes as parents we just have to keep drip feeding some of these wisdoms and it’s not until our children become adults that we get to see if it went in!
Choose your battles
Oh my gosh, this has never been more true than in parenting however it’s one that definitely leaks across all areas of life. We can’t win everything, we can’t change other people and life throws enough involuntary battles at us anyway. So see the best in people, give the benefit of the doubt and always be kind (also a Roald Dahl instruction, as typed by my step-grandmother, his typist).
So there we go, five golden nuggets from my Mum. If you can think of even just one that your Mum passed to you, then please leave it below… I think we can all benefit from our collective mothers’ wisdom and it’s a lovely way to celebrate them, whether they are still with us or watching from afar.