Some sad news


I’m sorry I haven’t updated my blog for a while, but it’s been a hectic – and a rather up and down – few weeks since I last wrote.

I’m so sad to tell you that we’ve lost our lovely dog Barney. He has been part of the family since he was a puppy and the children were young, and a more loved family dog you really couldn’t find. We had the most marvellous times together – he loved chasing waves at the seaside and squirrels in the woods, paddling in rivers and – when he and I were both younger and fitter – joining me on my runs around the nearby fields.

pic9He was 16 years old, enjoyed a wonderful life with us and gave us so much pleasure – I’ve posted some photos to give you just a glimpse of what a fantastic dog he was. I feel the one of him racing the children down a mountainside could be used as the cover of an Enid Blyton storybook. I can almost hear Billy yelling ‘wait for me!!’.

We miss him terribly.

Billy was only three when Barney became ours, and one week after Barney died Billy left home. He was offered a new job in Castle Donington working with a company distributing extreme sports equipment which is right up his street, so it was up the M1 for him to a rented flat and a new life! Needless to say, without either Barney or Billy the house has been very quiet, but also considerably less messy.




Two weeks later and it was Charlie’s turn to leave, along with his girlfriend Maddie. They’ve been living back with us after travelling around Southeast Asia earlier in the year but decided it was time to have their own place, so Friday saw us carrying boxes up stairs again!


Then more sadness – our 18-year-old cat Buddy has not been well for a while now and on Saturday we had to say goodbye to him. He was a handsome tabby with loads of character and a killer instinct when he was younger. He often brought us ‘gifts’ – once he even caught a pheasant and dragged it through the cat flap! When Charlie was little and playing hide and seek he squeezed behind the sofa and thought he’d found a furry soft toy – it turned out to be a dead squirrel, courtesy of Buddy! He certainly made the most of all his nine lives but time finally ran out for him.

Which leaves just Olley and me.

Except we haven’t felt the full impact yet, as Billy was home with his girlfriend Sherilyn yesterday for a Sunday roast to celebrate his 20th birthday. Along with his best mate Glenn, Granny and Grandad and – of course – Charlie and Maddie (who said they could smell the beef from their new flat a few miles away) we had a full and noisy household again. It made me realise the truth in the thought that if we succeed in raising our children not just to have the wings they need to fly in this world, but also the roots required to ground them and give them stability and security, they’ll always come home. Especially if Mum’s Yorkshire puds and roast potatoes are on offer…


  1. Elaine Ann Baker September 21, 2015 at 5:12 pm -  Reply

    I am so sorry Kathy to hear your sad news. Its such a huge wrench when we have to say goodbye to our little fur babies, especially as they are so much a part of our family. Sending you love and condolences to you and all your family. Elaine XXX

  2. Tanya September 21, 2015 at 7:02 pm -  Reply

    I’m so sorry to read your sad loss of Barney and Buddy (even if the local pheasants are relieved!). It is always dreadfully upsetting to lose a family pet after all the years we are fortunate to have them. Sending you all a hug x

  3. Karen Ager September 21, 2015 at 7:36 pm -  Reply

    I am sorry to hear of the lost of not one but two beloved pets. Having been in your position myself a few years ago I can sympathise but in time you will remember the good times you shared with them with a smile.

  4. Janet cullen September 21, 2015 at 9:07 pm -  Reply

    Hi I’ve never commented on anyone’s blog before but felt I needed to as it was so sad for you.It would be awful to lose one pet but two in such a short time is devastating so I send my condolences .People who don’t have pets don’t realise just how much part of the family they become so can’t understand why it makes you so sad .It will get easier but you will still look out for them when you get home for many years .At least they had a good long life. Best wishes

  5. Susan Walker September 22, 2015 at 7:44 am -  Reply

    Dear Kathy,
    My heart breaks for you, it is a feeling no one can describe, when I read your blog and saw your lovely pictures, my eyes filled with tears, we lost our 1st dog 4 years ago and still now have never got over it, Time does help, I hope you and your family will soon be feeling a little better. Sending my very best wishes to you and keep talking about Barney.
    Take Care, Love Sue. Xxx

  6. Carol Morris September 22, 2015 at 7:52 am -  Reply

    You must be feeling lost without your beloved pets Kathy. My heart goes out to you. Pets become so part of ones family life. As you say they relate to so many stages of your life. I know our garden is full of graves of cats, dogs rabbits and hamsters! This is over 33 years Kathy not my inability to look after animals!!
    As for our 3chidren, I always say they are like rubber bands, they will always return to their family home be it in triumphs or tribulations, but always with love. X

  7. marilyn jones September 22, 2015 at 10:23 am -  Reply

    I haven’t commented on blogs before but after ordering the tsv from your morning show and then checking qvc for the elemis forthing coming tsv Barneys picture flagged up and then I read the rest.l have spoken to live via phone during a Tocca presentation(l was going to see Petula Clarke live in the evening)You’re brave, beautiful and representative of the real women of today regardless of age because you embrace life to the full with family ,pets, travel and your unique personality.After loss love returns and new souls will enter your life to love and befriend.Chin up and God bless

  8. Lucy September 22, 2015 at 5:04 pm -  Reply

    Hi Cathy,very sorry for the sadness you are feeling at this time,Your memories will be in your heart forever and in your sad times think about the years you had of loving two wonderful family friends!Always loved and never forgotten.Kind regards Lucy

  9. Elaine sallis September 22, 2015 at 5:11 pm -  Reply

    So sorry to hear about your pets. Our cat aged 20 died suddenly at home last week. I miss her terribly and sometimes think I can hear her meowing. We have two dogs one of 14 and one of 8 years. The older one has started having trouble with his back legs so we know he will not be with us for much longer. They were our children’s pets the trouble is the pets get old and the children leave home and the house becomes a very quiet place. I understand exactly how you feel.


  10. Gill Graham September 22, 2015 at 8:21 pm -  Reply

    so sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of all of you as you miss Barney and Buddy. xx

  11. Anne Marie Mason September 22, 2015 at 10:30 pm -  Reply

    Oh Kathy, I’m so sorry to hear all of your sad news. Thinking of you and your family. Take care. x

  12. Denise September 23, 2015 at 8:25 pm -  Reply

    So sorry to hear about Barney and Buddy but take comfort in the thought that they had a wonderful life with your family. Also now that the children have flown the nest so to speak it’s now “your time” so do think of it as a new chapter.
    Sending big hugs dear Kathy.
    Denise x

  13. Kim September 24, 2015 at 7:40 pm -  Reply

    RIP Barney and Buddy. x

  14. Theresa September 24, 2015 at 7:53 pm -  Reply

    I’m so sorry for your loss Cathy, pets are one of the family & their loss is felt every bit as much, you must console yourself with the fact that you gave them a wonderful & loving home. I hope your pain eases soon x

  15. Laura Jane shepherd September 24, 2015 at 8:21 pm -  Reply

    So sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my springer Sophie in May she was 12 and such a huge part of our family. I’m still struggling. It’s so so hard. My Thoughts are with you. Xxx

  16. Bev September 26, 2015 at 12:09 pm -  Reply

    I’m so sorry to hear your news . It’s so hard and they truly are part of your family and family memoriesxxx thinking of you and the family with all the love and hugs – Bev x

  17. Christineliddy September 27, 2015 at 1:45 pm -  Reply

    So sorry about barney and buddy xxx

  18. Catherine duncan September 27, 2015 at 1:47 pm -  Reply

    So sorry Kathy for your loss my thoughts are with you.xx

  19. Michelle September 27, 2015 at 3:20 pm -  Reply

    oh Kathy I’m so sorry to hear the sad news about Barney & Your cat. I very sadly lost my dog in April & I don’t think I have ever cried so much !!! It’s obvious from the pictures how very much he was loved x my heart goes out to you, big hugs xxx

  20. Joan Cambage September 27, 2015 at 5:25 pm -  Reply

    So sorry for you Kathy, it’s terrible to lose your pets, I’ve lost several over the years and miss them all. Chin up, lady. Pleased to read the news on your family xxx

  21. Jane Price September 27, 2015 at 6:02 pm -  Reply

    This is a pivotal moment for you and your family. Stay strong.

  22. theresa September 27, 2015 at 9:01 pm -  Reply

    Guess it will take a while for you all to get over the loss of both your pets who I know would have been loved dearly by all in the years you had them thoughts are with you all take care x

  23. Lisa Coughlan September 27, 2015 at 10:43 pm -  Reply

    Sorry To Hear Of The Loss Of Your Two Best Furry Friends, They Are Not Just Your Pets They Become A Member Of The Family And It Leave A Great Big Hole In Your Life. But They Will Now Be Looking Down On You From Rainbow Bridge Were All Our Beloved Pets Go. Big Hugs To You All. XX

  24. Teresa September 28, 2015 at 12:19 am -  Reply

    Ahhh my angel i am so sorry..i lost my little dog 10 weeks ago to cancer she was 18 and it was so painful.. take it from me Kathy we will see them again i am sure live abd best wishes Teresa

  25. Lorraine September 28, 2015 at 12:36 am -  Reply

    Sorry about the loss of your beautiful dog, it’s so hard to say goodbye to them. I have had to do it and it breaks your heart. Also it’s hard to see your children leave home, my daughter headed off in August to spend a year in China teaching and it’s just the two of us now and it’s taking a bit of time to get use to. Take care Kathy and hopefully see you soon on QVC XX

  26. sharon charlton September 28, 2015 at 11:50 pm -  Reply

    My heart goes out to you Kathy, we love our fur babies so much. God Bless xx

  27. Sandy September 30, 2015 at 10:56 am -  Reply

    Hi Kathy
    I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your family pet and loyal friend, people don’t always realise how much a big part of the family they become, I’m sure he had a wonderful life and you need to focus on all the joy Barney gave you and you have wonderful memories. You do have Your daughters wedding to look forward to so take great joy in planning that, and now it’s yours and hubby’s time, we have four children our youngest 16, and there always off doing there own things so we are now part time Derby and Jones and it’s difficult as we miss them terribly.
    Love from Sandy x

  28. Joyce Davies September 30, 2015 at 3:44 pm -  Reply

    So sorry for your loss it is very sad when an old friend dies. I lost my 41/2 year old cocker spaniel Pippa to a blood condition in December and last month my 18 year old poodle Penny died. They had a good life but I still miss them as does our other dog Alfie. Barney looked so lovely.

  29. maggie shankster October 1, 2015 at 8:13 pm -  Reply

    how lucky you were to have had the love of your dog and cat,they bring so much love and mischief,just remember those wonderful times with love,

  30. Sandra Morgan October 8, 2015 at 8:46 am -  Reply

    Have just read the sad news about Barney and Buddy. It seems very hard to say goodbye to the lovely pets in our lives and feels very strange without them as they
    bring so much joy and love to us, for so little – just a walk, a comfy bed, food and our
    Take care
    Sandra Morgan

  31. Sandy holloway October 29, 2015 at 10:03 am -  Reply

    So very sorry to hear about your precious Barney, they become so completely a huge part of our lives and almost one of our children the only wonderful thing to come out of such sad news is that he had a beautiful life was very loved by you all and he died very very happy. Memories are lovely things and they are all yours I hope you can draw comfort from them .

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