I had a wonderful glimpse into spring this weekend with sequins in sunshine and then down a rabbit hole for afternoon tea (not literally!). Reunions and girlie gatherings got me pondering a good way and I fortuitously came across this phrase…
…Confidence is self-perpetuating, create some and you’ll generate even more.
Now this I LIKE, this is important and this is going to be worked on.
I want my children to have this and I’m going to remind myself that it’s OK to have it. Self-deprecation, i.e. belittling, undervaluing and disparaging oneself, is some may feel an attractive quality. After all, an overly confident person is conceited and cocky aren’t they? Or perhaps it’s about cleverly lessening the sting from an insult, after all if we know it and say it ourselves then it can’t hurt as much… can it?
I spent time this weekend in the company of a delicious 6 year old who oozes confidence, who is not arrogant nor cocky, just simply incredibly at ease in herself. Her natural warmth and friendliness is delightful and needs to accompany her through this life… isn’t it a shame though that some words spoken by others will doubtless swiftly remove that and make it seem wrong to be what you naturally are. So, I say let confidence be emblazoned across our chests like a label, try it on for size. Less of the berating, self-loathing and more of the “Goodness Golly Miss Molly I am super dooper smashing!!!!” ha! There’s a phrase I for one am going to start yelling and don’t tell me off for it! In our society that will dilute down to a mere drip of confidence, but heh a drip can become a puddle and before you know it we will be in a torrential downpour of confidence!
There that’s better, shoulders back and now that’s off my chest (albeit one emblazoned with confidence) onto other things!
Sequins in the sunshine… yes yes yes! It made me feel happy to wear my jacket, no-one stared or raised eyebrows, it was just me worrying about being overdressed… well I was… and that was just FINE. Spending time on Saturday catching up with wonderful strong women was brilliant, many of them I trained with at Laine Theatre Arts some 35 years ago and then worked with as a dancer on varied jobs through the years. I left feeling all warm and sparkly, though that may well have been the Prosecco and not my sequinned jacket.
The next day Maddie and I togged up and set off to the wonderful world of Alice in Wonderland for Afternoon Tea at the Sanderson Hotel. It was a girls only trip, all boys were left at home, making burgers, bonfires and eating curry by all accounts, whilst us girls had the loveliest of afternoons with our daughters. Delicious food, beautiful presentation and oh the detail… from the grass growing out of the top tier of the cake plate and the fabulous seats in the foyer I was in heaven, I do adore lovely things.
With ages ranging from 21 to 6 years you can imagine the variety of topics we covered from driving tests to unicorns, with loss, love, travel plans, GCSE choices, work, bedroom layouts and summer holidays all debated and discussed along the way. We always have more to talk about however long we have together. Our girls are wonderful, powerful and sooo full of promise… I’m excited to see how they grow.
Talking of things full of promise look at my little dead stick of an orchid.
Thank you Mr Richard Jackson for your Flower Power, it will be featured on Saturday 24th as our Today’s Special Value (but you can get your hands on it now right here), have a look at all the amazing reviews and comments and photos on our website and now the recipe has just got EVEN better with bio active technology… early ordering highly recommended (and that’s my orchid talking).
On Valentine’s Day, Dan and I saw Churchill’s “Darkest Hour” I was so pleased to watch the Bafta’s with Gary Oldman winning best actor for his role… he was truly AMAZING. I now have a list of films I need to see after watching the Bafta’s, starting with the winner Three Billboard Outside Ebbing,Missouri. Now I am constantly singing the soundtrack to The Greatest Showman, I’m looking to join the singalong at the cinema, but I need to up my game and learn the words!! Madds on the other hand is word perfect. I wish she could accept how good she sounds, back to the confidence bit at the start of my blog!
I had a lovely few days at QVC with a visit from Kim Mendelson, some super Skechers shows and the fashion event we held to coincide with London Fashion Week, which I hope has ignited your love and buzz for fashion. I’m awaiting delivery of a fabulous long pale blue Helene Berman coat and then there are some amazing Bronx trainers and boots I have spotted, I keep having to check on our website so I can snap them up immediately they appear… we have quite a lot of fashion that you will see on our website that won’t appear on air, I’ve seen some amazing pieces and have decided to make it my mission to find out more.
I’m off to celebrate birthdays with one of my oldest friends from school soon. I’ve dug out my diaries and letters we wrote to one another, crikey your hair would curl if you could read them! I think I may take them along with me and we can laugh at our younger selves.
I shall be wearing the beautiful Lola Rose necklace which will be our Today’s Special Value on the 27th. It’s so versatile and the first long TSV Nikki has done for us so I suspect it will be crazy busy, plus those delightfully helpful Easy Pay instalment offers make tapping the app all rather simple. I rather like it long or knotted, myself. There are so many ways to wear it and so many beautiful colour options that it’s hard to decide which. IF my Helene Berman coat arrives in time I know it will be a perfect accessory for it.
Talking of diaries, mine is filling up with pink hearts; my way of popping lovely things in to look forward to in and amongst the ordinary stuff, they are basically my punctuations, the exclamation marks if you like. I pepper my blogs and chat with them, so why not my weeks! (What! you hadn’t noticed?!!). I was talking with Joe about life, low moods and the monotony and pointlessness of school and life, phew, teenage angst at its finest (though luckily short-lived and back to a more effervescent version of himself the next day). After our chat I happened upon this by LR Knost and thought YES!
I think it summarises what I was trying to convey to Joe, without trashing any childlike optimism, though at 15 he’s not showcasing much in the way of childlike optimism!