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Mother/daughter time

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Of course I have always cherished my mum. I’ve always loved her and will forever, as you might well expect from any daughter. This year, however, has strengthened our bond considerably. Having nearly lost her and then spent lots of time caring for her as she recovered, I realise now just how precious our time is together.

So many of you continue to write both heartwarming and heart-wrenching messages in response to my blogs regarding mum’s recent ill health. I am so pressured just now that I really don’t have enough hours in the day to personally write back to each message, so I wanted to take the time to say a heartfelt thanks to all of you for your kind wishes, your empathy and for sharing your own personal stories with me. I feel so much for what you’ve been through and are going through. I’m grateful beyond words that my mum has pulled through but it makes me ache to the core for those of you who have not been so fortunate, and now live with the gaping hole in your life where your mum should be. The only small consolation must be that you were lucky enough to have her at all and that no one can take the memories that she created with you away.

The other night after I finished work I went round to mums at 1am. She knew I was coming and had waited up. We shared her bed, giggled like best friends and chatted into the early hours before falling asleep. I NEVER want her to leave! We have so much to share now, and a renewed sense of our value to each other. Just before leaving her house I was singing Queen’s ‘You’re My Best Friend’ to her and dancing around her living room being a bit daft, as I am prone to do, and she said “Catherine, don’t leave, stay a bit longer”. I had to laugh because I had just got to the point in the song where it says “Been with you such a long time, you’re my sunshine…” So I sang it full pelt, hugged her and left her smiling and happy. I do know what a lucky girl I am.

I’ve also been extremely blessed to have a daughter who I am incredibly close to. In their earlier years I didn’t share too much, publicly, regarding my children. My son is very private and prefers me not to go in about him in my blogs, Twitter etc., just in case you wondered why I don’t speak about them that much here! I always ask their permission first if I do. This leads me on to my daughter, Chrissie.

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She has wanted to work at QVC for some time now, inquiring several times over the past couple of years but nothing was available or suitable at the times she applied. I’m very proud of her because she has done it all of her own volition and not via the route of nepotism. She has now become one of our Production Assistants and is over the moon about it! I love having her working with me and have to resist the urge to introduce her to people as ‘my baby’ which, of course, she will always be. Just as my mum says of me!

Tonight, as my son is working an overnight shift, it’s just me and Chrissie, our jimjams and the cats. A proper girly night in to cook together, talk together, laugh together and just be together. People sometimes talk about quality time versus quantity. I actually think that quantity is quality, too. Just doing everyday things together. Being together in the same room even when you’re both doing your own thing. There’s that bond and that intangible shared energy which gives us strength.

I have become very aware that, one day (if I keep looking after myself) my daughter will also have an elderly mum. One day she will be looking back at all the good times we shared, too, so I want to invest as much as possible into the memory banks of both her and my son now. Maybe when I’m an octogenarian I won’t be as inclined to go for bike rides, long walks or even roller coaster thrills. I’d like to think I will, but just in case I won’t I’m going to do them all while I can, and enjoy every special or just plain day we have together.

Life is short so hold close to those you love and enjoy! Once again, thank you for all of your messages. I’m humbled, touched and grateful to you.

Love Catherine xxx

13 Comments

  1. Jo woodward October 14, 2015 at 5:47 pm -  Reply

    Catherine what a beautiful read that was
    Made me a bit tearful ! Xx

  2. loraine October 14, 2015 at 7:06 pm -  Reply

    What a lovely blog Catherine and yes you are lucky to have your mum after a scary time and your children when I was 27 I lost my mum and my daughter Clare was only 2 years old my dad found her dead in bed it was a heart attack my husband and I had been to see them the night before to say I was expecting another baby but the shock caused a miscarriage that’s what the doctors said my dad was much older than my mum and he gradually went downhill after she died my son who is now 27 was only 5 months old when my dad died so all in all we had a tough time three major things in 18 months but luckily I have a good husband which helped me through it as did some of his family as I don’t have any siblings anyway my daughter is 4 months pregnant now she has her own nanny business so she will be able to leave her main job but still run the business we are proud of our children our daughters husband is lovely as is our sons girlfriend so all is ok I just wish my parents were here to see it all.Would like to say I think you are a really good presenter and your nice personality always shines through enjoy spending time with your mum love Loraine

  3. Caroline Knight October 14, 2015 at 9:13 pm -  Reply

    What a beautiful blog and what gorgeous pictures!I wish your daughter great things in her new role and am so pleased your having quality time with your family.You are lucky and I don’t think there could be anyone more deserving.Keep up the good work and I hope the picture of you and your mum gets put in a lovely frame in a prominent place to remember bad times do pass and that photo shows it beautifully.Take Carexxx

  4. Elaine Snoddy October 14, 2015 at 10:52 pm -  Reply

    Oh Catherine what a beautiful blog! This is the first time I have left a reply to a blog and yours touched me deeply. You are so right enjoy every day and cherish the times you have had with your mum and times you will still have. I lost my mummy 17 years ago to Motor Neurone disease and I think of her all the time and the memories I have. I like you am making memories with my own children and two wee granddaughters who are 3 and 5. Look after yourself and keep singing to your mum!

  5. Angela jackson October 15, 2015 at 1:28 am -  Reply

    Hi Catherine your mom will leave a prized legacy in you, and in turn you will leave your prized legacy in your son and baby girl. Until then (a long time from now) treasure each and every second. With love to you all, from someone who wishes the clock could be turned back for just one more day with my precious exceptional wonderful mom xxxx

  6. Shona Haley October 15, 2015 at 6:39 am -  Reply

    I’ve just read your story about your mum,i lost mine just before xmas 2002 & in an instant my life had changed. During her illness i was there every day and on the phone checking on her. We left it too late to have a proper mum/daughter relationship but her illness created one for us and dvery day we said i love you because we didnt have a lot of time to do all the things we were going to do when she retired,cancer stopped that. She was poorly for a year and died aged 61! Its left a gaping hole in me-part of me died that day too. So i have a beautiful daughter and we have such an amazing bond-im so proud abd blessed to have her inmy life. We speak every say ifwe cant see each other. She truly is amazing. I hate to think that one day she’ll face this emptiness. Losing your mum is awful andctheresalways a constant ache. So mums cherish your daughters and daughters cherish your mum and create as many good memories as you can.God bless.x

  7. jennifer cann October 16, 2015 at 1:10 pm -  Reply

    Catherine what a lovely blog, i am 67 so lost my mum a few years ago, but i have lovely memories of our times together

  8. Donna October 18, 2015 at 8:47 pm -  Reply

    Such a heartfelt blog! Got me to thinking. Ive just spent a whole day with my 12 year old daughter. And we did nothing at face value. We sat in pjs. We watched a movie. We ate malteasers, we talked. We laughed. And thats when I realised, instead of doing nothing, we did everything! Time we can never replace or relive. So it means so much. Never ever overlook, plain time. There is no such thing as plain time. You just have to realise it. Enjoy your mommy moments Catherine!! I do. You have inspired me to realise it! x

  9. Anne derwin October 19, 2015 at 12:40 pm -  Reply

    keep building those memories Catherine, it does not matter how old you are when you loose your mum, it creates a hole in your heart that can never be filled, but nothing can take away happy memories.

    God bless you and your family

  10. Vanessa October 22, 2015 at 2:50 pm -  Reply

    I’m so glad your mum is on the mend.Like you I lost my dad 12years ago and miss him dreadfully,my mum had major heart surgery a few years ago and where I hadn’t been close to her it brought us together.I have two daughters one of 17 and one who is 21 next month and due to circumstances hasn’t been living with me for 7years which were so hard and I felt broken every single day but we moved in with her at the start of October and having bothy girls with me I feel complete every day knowing we can say good morning and spend the evening together eating a meal and just chatting about our day is magical.We all love watching Qvc and are fans of yourself we share your sense of humour and find you a joy to watch.Take care and love to your precious family from us girls Vanessa Rachel and Maddie xxx

  11. Mary Morphy October 22, 2015 at 10:14 pm -  Reply

    Hi Catherine. I have been reading your blogs and have been moved to tears at times. We think our mum is ageless and will go on forever but quite often, it is an illness that shakes us to the core and wakes us up to the realisation that they will not go on forever. My mum was diagnosed with a benign brain tumour 13 years ago, apparently it had been growing in her brain for 20 years! Her first surgery was horrendous..ear to ear incision and the rest you can imagine. She suffered a serious fit and we nearly lost her. But she was left with damage to the brain and epilepsy. A second surgery followed two years later, the tumour had grown back and this coincided with my dad being diagnosed with lung cancer and a consequent lobectomy. Both pulled through but needed our constant care; very tough as all three of us daughters work and I had young children who still needed mum!
    Mum’s tumour returned again but she under went cyber knife radiotherapy at Harley Street 4 years ago. My mum was left with post meningiomal dementia and epilepsy but she survived. She has carers each morning but her meals and weekend care is shared by us, her 3 daughters. Mum cannot go out on her own and cannot cook..she can fix a snack, make a hot drink and manages in her bungalow. She is without doubt the most incredible woman; she taught us to be strong, independent women who can look after themselves and never rely on anyone. She hates having to be looked after but she spent so much time looking after us, its now our turn to look after her. My dad passed away two years ago, we were all devasted but mum showed us strength and courage and even with her illness, was string for us. She will be with me, always. Give your mum a hug from me. Best wishes Mary. X

  12. Ann Aris November 23, 2015 at 10:40 pm -  Reply

    Read your blog today and was touched by your words. I have never experienced a close mother daughter relationship with my mother. However, at 91 she is now terminally ill and for the past ten months I have lived with her to provide the full time care that she needs. It is hard and sometimes lonely work but I have got so close to her and I am thankful for the special time we have been able to share.

  13. annette sharrock December 3, 2015 at 11:28 pm -  Reply

    Hi sorry to hear that your mum has been unwell . I lost my mum 7 years ago this time of the month. Words cannot express how many precious memories you keep close to your heart. T here is not one single day that I do not think about her I regular phoned her Sunday , Monday Weds and Fri but that is of course in between when I needed to ask her advice. She was a very hard working Mum who by the way has 5 girls of which 3 of us is triplets of course me lol. She did not that she was having us until we were born my poor Dad out numbered by girls! T here was no help in them days so everything was done what ever way she could! Unfortuantly I dont have girls to talk to I have just two grown boys so I dont quite have that bond lol, So I like to say give your mum a big hugs and kisses . I do know how it feels when your love ones become unwell. My thoughts are with you, and by the way you are looking great dont loose any more weight you look fab your an inspiration xxx

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