Life is to live


I dedicate this blog to anyone who has lost someone that had a special place in their heart.

Over the last 14 months many of my close friends have lost people very special to them. Some very unexpected and some with illnesses out of our control. It's been an extremely difficult time for them. As a dear friend I have been there for them with great love and support but seeing the pain they are going through is heart-rending.

I have always had a great belief, even before this experience, that life is to live. It's not, and never has been for me, a tomorrow or any kind of rehearsal. I taught this valuable lesson to my husband when we met 18 years ago and how thankful he is to this very day.

I never save anything for best or for that special day. I love it and live every moment. So for those of you who have all that gorgeous Butler & Wilson jewellery or a Maxx NY handbag or some diamonds and that candle you have been longing to burn that you got for Christmas or a recent birthday, take them all out of the boxes and wear them, admire them and love them.

Every day is a day to feel good and look your best. Life is so short and also far too short to do things that you really don't want to do either. Some things in life we can't avoid and we have to do. But make better choices that make you and your family happier and healthier along the way.

Make sure you laugh every day and tell those close to you how much you love them.
This is a Franks ritual…live, love and laugh.


  1. Linda Duffy February 10, 2010 at 12:32 pm -  Reply

    Bless you Jill, you are so right about living everyday to
    the full. My husband and I lost our much loved Golden Retriever Olly 18months ago and we are still having a difficult time. Your words have really give me food for thought. We hope soon we will be able to have another
    dog, although Olly will always be missed. Love to you and your family

  2. Nicola Rippon February 10, 2010 at 12:41 pm -  Reply

    What a lovely blog!
    You’re absolutely right – there are so many things about which we have no control but we can control our choice to enjoy ourselves. Many years ago my family endured a very stressful situation. There was nothing we could do to avoid it and it affected our lives for a good few months. It took a long time for things to return to normal but we have made sure, since that time, to make the very most of every minute we have with each other, with our friends and by ourselves. We treat ourselves well, look after each other and have fun as often as we can. We vowed (where we had a choice) to push those situations and people out of our lives that brought anxiety, disruption and hurt and we have never looked back! Life is not perfect, of course, but neither is it predictable, or long, and we have to make most of the time we have.

  3. sylvia February 10, 2010 at 12:57 pm -  Reply

    Hi Jill
    I too believe in what you say.I am 48 and I lost my dearly loved mum when I was 33,my dad when I was 43 and this totally destroyed my family for a while.Im happy to say we all talk again,but your right to say we should all stick together and live and love for today.My husband used to get onto me for shopping all the time,until we were nearly killed on holiday in Egypt from a suicide bomber.Nowadays my life has changed.I work to live,not live to work and afterall there are no pockets in shrouds.
    Sorry to sound so morbid,but everyone needs to live life to the full as you never know whats round the corner.

  4. Barbara Cowen February 11, 2010 at 12:54 pm -  Reply

    What a lovley blog. I have endured much stress in the last 3 years, my dad died 2 years ago, then my mum died unexpectedly last year on Boxing Day and my son is now in Afghanistan, the pain I feel is so strong, sometimes I wonder if it will go away, but I know it will, so for all those people suffering like me I send you my love sympathy and prayers

  5. Jan Burnley February 11, 2010 at 4:41 pm -  Reply

    With you all the way “live for the day” you never know what’s round the corner. (not always doom and gloom!) My son bought me a suncatcher plaque which reads” Live,Love Laugh” I think we can all manage at least one of them each day.
    Love and prayers, Jan Burnley

  6. Julie February 12, 2010 at 6:57 pm -  Reply

    Hi Jill
    I totally believe what you say, I always say make the most of life as this is not a rehearsal-everthing in moderation. Nothing is worth worrying about-she says the worlds worst!
    The last 10 years have been particularly bad for me as I lost my beloved Mother to Cancer, since then nothing’s gone right. We thought this year was going to be better but today I’ve heard more bad news-it just seems never ending. It is hard to feel cheerful when you keep being knocked down.
    Julie xx

  7. Sarah James February 13, 2010 at 9:11 am -  Reply

    Wow what a lovely blog, just put shivers down my spine. So true and funny to as I have those things that I have in a cupboard for SPECIAL. Might just have to get them out and make me feel special everyday not just for a special occasion (cause it may never come around). I also have the special candle that I may not burn for months, but will use it now and think of you!!
    Thanks for making me smile!!
    Love Sarah, Fareham

  8. edwina February 17, 2010 at 9:27 am -  Reply

    how right you are…its as if you read my thoughts dad died when i was 17 and my brother was 12…he served our country in the army and later in the sas….since the day he died my motto is lifes too short live for today, because tomorrow may never come, it will be the anniversary of his death on 26th feb, 29 years ago, i still think of him every day, and my wedding day was also his birthday, choosen so he was part of it….life goes on, ive just been diagnosed with m.e. but im still living for today, cant run my business anymore, but im sure i can find plenty to do to annoy,(in a funny way) others…bring it on i say, take care, edwina (in frosty west yorks)

  9. Julie from Staffordshire February 17, 2010 at 9:06 pm -  Reply

    Hi Jill,
    You are so completely right – I’ve had many losses in my life and am now stuck with an illness that everyone believes to be rare. I take each day as it comes, and see my parents almost every day. Although I live alone, and have done for some time now (after 2 divorces!), I make the most of what I have, love reading, sewing, card-making and doing anything creative really – also work from home so I am lucky in that respect (not when I’m on the computer at 11pm at night though!) I’m relatively young, but never take anything for granted, and although I used to plan for the future, I don’t now. You never know what’s round the corner. I do hope you are OK, and that times are not too bad for you. You’re a great presenter Jill, and I always have a giggle when you’re on as you have a fab sense of humour. Like you, I’m an individual, and don’t follow the crowd, so I think you’re great! By the way, if you’re interested, I’VE FOUND A BUTLER & WILSON BULL DOG BANGLE on the internet for you. I won’t put the details on here in case it gets snapped up, but you can contact me either by email or phone. Hopefully you can get my details from Membership. My screen name is Julianne. If not, come back on the blog some time and let me know, and I’ll drop a letter to QVC for you. Well, take care and keep your chin up.
    Love, Julie in Staffordshire x

  10. lorraine hood March 14, 2010 at 5:58 pm -  Reply

    what a lovely blog your my favorite presenter always happy you make me smile your awomen out of my own heart, i love shoes handbags ect, but most of all your warm and caring love you jillxx

  11. Lynne Beasley March 20, 2010 at 8:17 am -  Reply

    Hi Jill,
    I so agree with your thoughts..
    At the age of 40 I was diagnosed with Breast cancer and life became very valuable..
    I have survived three episodes in the last 20 years and both my husband ,who has been my constant support and sanity,live life !!
    I have recieved my birthday present for 2045! lovely man says he has to make sure I get all I deserve.
    Sometimes when money and life’s everyday problems turn on you it is easy to get swamped ….But the sun is there, with the help of lovely friends, like you obviously are to those you love , life stays precious and special.
    Take care .
    Lynne xx

  12. Mrs Heidi Barnett March 23, 2010 at 5:31 pm -  Reply

    Hi Jill,have just found this blog…and have to say I now have a lump in my throat! I used to be a ‘saver for best/later’ as I was brought up mainly by my Nan (who sadly is no longer with us) but thats how it kind of was with ‘nice things’.
    But I also enjoy and wear/use the nice things I have as I have Fibromyalgia syndrome & arthritis,so alot of pain and little money (as cannot work) and don’t do stuff like I used to or as much. But I have to agree with your lovely sentiment,you have to enjoy what you have as who knows what will happen tomorrow?! I know Catherine Huntley lost a friend recently (as we tweet) and I know it was hard for her.But she again is a positive person too.
    I am like you in the fact I don’t have kiddies but a dog..a black Labrador who is my BEST friend (asides Hubby lol) & he is my boy.I love fashion, shoes & handbags,beauty etc too so I will make sure I enjoy them even more than I do now. You are one of my fave presenters and I love your enthusiasm for all things ‘girlie’ have such fab energy hun!! Luv Heidi xx

  13. jane hulley April 17, 2010 at 7:40 am -  Reply

    Thanks Jill xx Dont know why or how i stumbled across this blog but having just lost my lovely Mum only 3 weeks ago i read with caution. Your words really do make sense thankyou for putting them on here. Lots of love to you x Jane xx

  14. Joanne Green July 5, 2010 at 3:28 pm -  Reply

    Jill, this blog has certainly brought a lump to my throat…I lost my 6 year old son last April very suddenly, and he would’ve been 7 on 10th February, the very day you wrote this blog. I totally agree with everything you have written, I just need to keep reminding myself that life does go on.
    Many thanks

  15. Pauline Hatton July 16, 2010 at 1:28 pm -  Reply

    Only just read this blog today, I lost my husband nearly 12 months ago, 7 weeks after he was diagnosed. We had made plans for the future, never to come true. I totally live every day as though it is my last, doing and wearing whatever I want whenever.
    If you love someone, like I did make sure you tell them every day. In that respect I have no regrets.
    I too have a puppy he is 10 months old and has helped a great deal, he makes me go out when I otherwise probably would’nt be bothered.
    Like Joanne I realise that life goes on. I hope everyone who reads your blog will take note.

  16. Christine Clark December 31, 2012 at 10:52 am -  Reply

    Hi Jill
    Just posted a comment regarding a handy trim. I put handy time on the typepad by mistake.

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