Discussing Diet Chef and picking up life lessons


This week, I ‘are’ mostly been discussing…. Diet Chef! (to be said with a west country accent, a la Fast Show!)

Yes, it’s true. After my first week on the programme, having lost over 1.9 pounds, I’ve been finding out how some of the others at QVC have been doing. Some of my colleagues are discussing eating habits and following each others’ progress as they embark upon QVC’s easy-choice weight loss product, Diet Chef. (see below for info about forum).

An insight to how I deal with problems

Comfort eating has come up a couple of times, hence the discussions about how to deal with things differently. So it’s made me wonder… what are your favourite philosophies in life? What’s helped you in times of trouble? Has someone ever said something that’s changed your life? (she says in a cheesy, presenter-type way!). 

I’m a great lover of books and CD sets and it all began in 1997 on QVC when I was asked to do the first Tony Robbins shows. His tapes later helped me cope with lots of life-changing events, especially during my nine years away from QVC, coping with being a single mum, running a business, redundancies and lots more.

What are your main concerns? What makes you reach for the biscuit tin? Is it teenage kids, challenges in career, troublesome people? One common theme crops up time and again when I talk with my mates about why we stick to a diet or not – our problems and how we eat our way through them! So instead, how do we change the way we deal with them and make a diet more successful? Any ideas?

I’ve got several beliefs that have helped no end. Often they’re from 'self-help', a term I hate since seeing that scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary where she bins the lot!

Tony Robbins’ works led me to Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and other best sellers. For instance, Kenneth Blanchard’s 'One Minute Manager Meets the Monkey' was a revolution to me. (Nothing to do with Jolee or Seamus from last week’s column – see blog below if you missed the clips from my trip to Monkey World.)

A monkey is in fact a problem and this book from his clever One Minute Manager series talks about how to stop being the person everyone dumps their problems on. Have you come across it?

Wayne Dyer’s work includes sayings and thoughts from many people, and some of his own, including 'give up your need to be right' and 'be independent of the good or bad opinion of others', and things like responding to someone telling you they don’t like your top, or car, by saying 'when I chose it I wasn’t thinking of you!' Love it!

And Steven Covey has the brilliant '7 Secrets of Successful People' where he recommends everyone should 'seek first to understand then be understood'. This philosophy prevents a lot of staff issues and helped me no end in my work running a company and then as an Operations Manager in the finance industry in the mid 2000’s.

So I’d love to know yours – do share. Whatever they are, they don’t have to be connected to dieting.

50 Life lessons

There’s an email doing the rounds at the moment written by a ladycalled Regina Brett. It’s got a lot of lovely sayings on them – the type you can use to help deal with problems differently should you adopt them. And basically, they’re just quite nice. So, I thought I’d include some of the 50 below. It makes this blog quite long but it’s worth a read!

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written. Here is the column once more", Regina Brett.

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will… stay in touch.

5. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

(extracts from an email forwarded around the world based on a column written By Regina Brett, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio)

Which one’s your favourite? Let me know by leaving a comments in the box below.

Live audience for Kim & Co!

Glen with a customer at the Kim & Co event Jilly and I both presented Kim’s anniversary shows on Wednesday with a lovely live audience! There are going to be some fabulous behind-the-scenes clips so watch out for them. Clare did a lovely job of looking after everyone during the day, and Kim specially enjoyed seeing everyone dressed up in their favourite Kim & Co outfits.

Diet Chef forum

Finally, if you’re also in the mood to share, don’t forget to check out the Diet Chef forum. It’s got some interesting points of view if you’d like to continue the debate or just find some other people going through the same thing you are.

I just got my pack this week and I’ve taken a bit of ‘before’ footage – is yours the same as mine?

Anyway enough for now, keep your eyes peeled for another instalment next week. Do come back each weekend for the next one.

I’d really appreciate it if you could give me your comments by just entering them on the form below – it’s really easy, your email address remains secret, and you can call yourself what you like! Our wonderful web team then add them the next working day, and I’ll read them and if possible respond to them too!

If you have any other questions or topics you’d like me to discuss, do suggest them below and I’ll do my best.

Big hugs and speak to soon!

Love Debs


  1. Christina Tedds November 20, 2009 at 9:30 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debbie, it is so good to see you back! I have read perused all of the `Philosophers` you mentioned. I love Wayne Dwyer also Eckhart Tolle, however I am still searching. I would love to take part in the Diet Chef programme but really cannot afford this at present. Maybe QVC could offer easy pay options? Also do you know if we shall be offered a code so that we can choose which product we have Easy Pay on as we did last year.
    Big hugs, speak soon

  2. Rosie November 20, 2009 at 11:20 pm -  Reply

    Hi Deb,
    You’ve taken a lot of time over your blog, so thank you.
    There really are some true gems of wisdom within that lot.
    I too like the self help stuff, especially if it hits a note with me. I’m going through a bit of a difficult time. I recently lost my Dad and (very secondary) work is a nightmare. Not the best timing but I’m trying to diet, having gained so much weight over the last few months – I’m definitely an emotional eater.
    When I feel like cheating or going off the rails I repeat the mantra “nothing tastes as good as losing weight feels” it reminds me of what I’m trying to achieve.
    Sounds a bit naff but surprisingly it does help (mostly)x

  3. Clare Collins November 22, 2009 at 7:04 pm -  Reply

    Hi Deb,
    Was just wondering on Saturday 21st Nov, whilst you were presenting Rockport you were wearing a ‘big’ ring on your left hand I believe it was Diamonique and was wondering what the item number was. Also the black watch, I have seen Katherine wearing a red one, is it by any chance the Gossip watch TSV coming up soon, if not do you have the item number for that aswell, or brand. Anyway welcome back, doing a sterling job. Thanks and best wishes

  4. debs November 23, 2009 at 11:40 am -  Reply

    Hi ladies – thanks for this so far! Glad you liked the long blog.
    Claire – the rings are from tomorrow’s judith ripka DQ selection in the afternoon – maybe on the web already! (not sure of item no’s as am replying from home!)the watch is butler and wilson – TSV this friday but don’t tell anyone I told you! 🙂
    Christina – I liked the Power of Now from Tolle, and not sure about code – will ask, but best way is to email cust servs! must say I’ve hardly spent any other money on food since being on this programme tho – and haven’t binned anything either!
    Rosie – so sorry to hear about your dad – know what you’re going thru – I lost my dad in ’92 – he never got to see me on QVC! – and the books that have really helped me deal with it – albeit years later – are ‘Conversations With God’ – trilogy. Read first 20 pages of book 2 first tho, as it puts book one in context. They really helped me take a different view on things. Nothing heals like time tho so my thoughts are with you.
    thanks all!

  5. Di November 24, 2009 at 12:24 am -  Reply

    Hiya Debs,
    My favourite is: 33. Believe in miracles.
    The past 3 years have been the hardest for me as you know and for me the miracles worked with my Mum and Sister, who are both doing really well.
    Great to have you back on QVC, feels as if you have never been away.
    Luv Di xxxxx

  6. Mrs Heidi Barnett November 24, 2009 at 8:57 am -  Reply

    Hi Debbie, i’m going to have to write down those life quotes..Brilliant! Can’t say i’ll abide by all, but i do think most of them teach us something and we do get too wrapped up in life to think about what we should be feeling!
    Thankyou and good wishes hun x

  7. Jean, Somerset. November 24, 2009 at 10:28 am -  Reply

    Hi Debs,It is very difficult to choose an extract as they are all so good and meaningful to our everyday life. I like No.10 No.20 and No.30.
    Nice to see you back on QVC. Keep up the good work.
    All the best xx

  8. Jo November 24, 2009 at 2:45 pm -  Reply

    15. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
    This one is my favorite and it is so right.
    Nice to see you back x

  9. Louise November 24, 2009 at 2:50 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debs
    A much needed breath of fresh air! Why so long, Debbie? You were always my favourite presenter – the most professional and capable – and still are.
    I very nearly went to one of Tony robbins events in London, but decided against it.
    I was with my fiance in 1994, and we both enjoyed watching you. But now, like yourself, I am no longer in that relationship after 13 years. Thankfully, we had no children. I really learned the value of a girl’s mum. In life – this is just my opinion – the only person you can trust is your mum. The adages above, I do believe that you make your own happiness. When I came out of that relationship, financially, I was worse off, having just taken out a huge mortgage. Now, I am looking to buy myself another house, am financially sound, have a new job and a great outlook on life. Honestly, I don’t know about you, but I’m happy on my own; I’m not looking for another relationship. (last one ended in 2007).
    Stick around, Debs; the queen of QVC is back and, hopefully, to stay.

  10. emma mcccarthy November 24, 2009 at 3:26 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debbie great to have you back. Thanks for inspiration

  11. veronica November 24, 2009 at 6:28 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debbie
    I turned on QVC last week and was shocked – I thought I was seeing things … I said – ‘hey isn’t that Debbie’ – yeah it was… I did not know you were coming back – but it’s nice to see yer!!
    I love those sayings – I will print them out; my favorites’ are: What other people think of you is none of your business…(so so very true) AND Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good ( I get down often – so this should pick me up!).
    Will have a look at that weight loss thing you’re doing, really need to lose some weight!

  12. Colette Cunningham November 24, 2009 at 8:02 pm -  Reply

    Hi Debbie, Great to see you back again. My favs are no. 29, 39, and 40.
    Very Best Wishes

  13. debs November 24, 2009 at 8:04 pm -  Reply

    hey girls!
    Emma, jean, Heidi, Di (who runs a yahoo ‘debbie flint’ group, bless her!), thanks so much and it’s wonderful to be back – so pleased to just be here, honestly!
    Jo – funny – realised I was holding my breath as I just read your response, so thanks, and you’re absolutely right!
    Louise – so know where you’re at! I’d welcome a new husband, but know exactly what you mean – how being alone doesnt have to mean being lonely. I think having overcome some of the frustrations in my own life (similar story to yours but add two kids, albeit now 22 and 20!) using much of the above influences, I came to realise how much some of my challenges were actually with who I was, rather than what was going on around me.
    Long story I’ll tell you all one day, about why I left, and what happened in between, but suffice it to say this time round most of the need has gone away.
    Very glad I did all that I did in the ‘missing years’ as someone called my 9 year gap! And over the moon to finally be back!
    Diet Chef continuing – we’re not allowed to claim over 2 lbs per week – hence my description above – but go see some of the customers’ stories on the diet chef forum and you’ll be impressed!
    For those that remember it, I’m using ‘Freedom Eating’ principles to allow me to stay on it and get back to the weight I was in around 2001 – 35lbs less than I was in 1997! Am working on an update, and it’ll go on the diet chef section rather than becoming a saga on this page!
    luv to all doing it with me!

  14. Doe Brown November 25, 2009 at 12:16 am -  Reply

    Hi Debs, I feel No 7 “Crying with someone is more healing than crying alone”, because Debs I have done a lot of that these past few weeks, we lost our beautiful son 14 weeks ago he was just 34yrs old, then my lovely sister 7 weeks ago, then my sister-in-law 3 weeks ago,so it has been so hard, so there has been a lot of crying done,so maybe I will be able to believe No 30 “Time heals almost everything, give time, time”, but it’s so very hard at the moment, God Bless Deb’s for sharing those meanings, it means a lot, take care, love Doe X

  15. Morven coates November 25, 2009 at 12:56 am -  Reply

    I really think that this saying is so very true, 26.Frame every so-called disaster with these words, “In five years, will this matter.” I’ve very often thought to myself when some problem happens within the family, what my mother used to say “These things are sent to try us, and they will pass, and we will learn from them, and remember, what does’nt kill us makes us stronger.” She was a great one for little sayings was my Mum. as was my Grandma.

  16. Mrs Muriel O’Toole December 12, 2009 at 8:51 am -  Reply

    Hi Debbie well done with your diet you can really see it is working for you .I was one of probably many who welcomed you back and mentioned about the good old QVC days such as the sing songs at Christmas and New Year its great to hear you will be on on New Years Eve and although QVC do not do it the same anymore (I guess thats progress)it will be lovely to see you on again at that time of the year .You slotted back again as though had never been away,well done ,I love to read your blogs Cherrio Muriel O’Toole

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