Wow, I’m back and I feel like I've been living in a movie for the last couple of weeks as we have had the most incredible trip out to Canada!!
A few weeks ago, my husband found out who his birth mother is. In Ontario in Canada, the law for adopted children has always been that you can’t find your birth parents, they have to find you. But this law changed on June 1st this year and my husband was allowed to apply for information of his birth parentage. On September 30th, he received a letter telling him the name of his birth mother (no father's name… yet!!).
So we immediately embarked upon this search for her and thanks to the internet, found a few family trees totaling about 30,000 entries of families and names related to his birth surname (amazing and true!). We discovered that his birth mother had tragically died aged 28 on Christmas Day - he would have been just 6. So, the hunt continued for any living blood relatives and we took off to Canada to find them!!
It was an amazing trip of discovery and boy is the internet handy for things like this!! He found his mother’s grave, he visited where she grew up, he met old school friends of hers, looked through year-books - but the best bit, was meeting his sister!!
The first blood relative (other than our children) that he had ever met in his life - it was massive! And she’s completely wonderful too - it was (sounds silly to say) just like family, like we had known her forever!! He then went on to meet his aunt who was able to tell him all about his birth mum, his grandfather, loads of stuff! It was an amazing trip and a real privilege to be part of.
Whilst we were out there, we stayed with our Vanderburg family and enjoyed the wonderful 'fall' season… not to mention Halloween!!! I’ve always been a bit dubious about this whole spooky celebration but we had an absolute blast! We all took off, dressed up (adults too!!) in all kinds of outfits ranging from fairies to Scooby Doo, to scarecrows and Transformers - every imaginable character was present!
We piled onto a trailer pulled by a tractor and embarked upon a 2-hour trip pulling up outside people’s houses and charging for the front door where they were waiting armed with 'candy'. They all go to such huge efforts at Halloween and it was truly a laugh/scream a minute (some bloke dressed up as a scarecrow scared the life out of me - I thought he was a dummy as there were many around, but as I ran passed him he jumped out at me. You should have heard me scream!!!)
The kids AND adults had a wonderful evening, drinking hot chocolate on the trailer, huddling under blankets as the evening wind picked up and the sun went down - an amazing evening for the last night on this incredible trip.
See you soon Canada!!!
Happy to be home though x x