A night out with the girls brought a tear to my eye…


I have just arrived back from the school run, run being the operative word! It's amusing to me and others that now we are SO close to school, we are so the last family racing through the playground!

Tom and Joe are already attempting independence by taking themselves to the line and this morning have even scooted in without a kiss…AAAAARGH, it's the beginning of the end!

The reason for the later start this morning was me trying without success to 'find my eyes'.

Let me explain…last night I went with some girlfriends to the cinema to see 'My Sister's Keeper' a film based on Jodie Picoult's novel. Well, all I can say is discreet, quiet tears? Oh no, noisy shoulder heaving sobbing would be a more accurate description.

I found it SO devastatingly sad. I won't spoil it if you haven't seen it but it was emotive and truly moving…or so I thought. I was utterly surprised when we came out into the foyer and whilst most of the seven of us were clutching soaking tissues a couple of the girls were totally dry eyed. How can this be? I mean as a mother, surely it is impossible to resist the inevitable 'putting yourself' in the situation of the film. The poignancy of a young girl fighting to live and her acceptance in the end of her death I guess has parallels to my life.

Losing someone so close…

My own father battled with cancer and died at such a young age of 40. For me to hear the fears and thoughts so movingly acted on screen highlighted how it must have felt for my Daddy. I find that harder and harder now I am older than he was and I too have a young family as he did.

I'm wondering therefore if a person needs to have experienced sadness in order to have empathy and understand. Or is it a type of person who is more emotional? I don't know enough about the girls who were untouched by the film last night to know if this may be true. What do you think?

So, a subdued and puffy eyed Claire this morning! Thank goodness I'm not on the Morning Show, you'd have wondered what on earth I'd been up to!

Well, I think this emotionally drained young lady had better crack on and do something productive with my time! In fact, some plastic crates and a scrapbook are on my shopping list – I know uninspiring but necessary. 

I'll see you on Thursday with something far more inspiring…gems!

Till then,

Lots of love,

Claire xx


  1. rosie September 15, 2009 at 7:22 pm -  Reply

    don’t ask me claire – I blubbed and blubbed at “marley and me”!!!! X

  2. Lizzie September 15, 2009 at 8:29 pm -  Reply

    Claire I too went to see this film with my friend of 43 years who generally is less emotional than myself and i admit I can cry at the drop of a hat! I had been crying for most of the film and the tears were dripping from under my chin and thinking my friend was not I was desperately trying to keep my composure. However at the most saddest part of the film i turned to look at her and she let out the loudest sob ever at which point we both went into hysteria a mixture of laughing and crying at the same time I am sure the rest of the people in the cinema must of thought us slightly mad!(The last time she cried that much was when we went to see The Last Snows of Spring back in the seventies!)
    My father also died from cancer and I think this film with all its ethical and moral points it raised will probably touch people deeper when you have personal experience of that horrible disease. I think people who also list the Magic Faraway Tree as their favorite book (me too) will always be more in touch with their emotional side!
    I had to reach for my eyebright the next day = one film to be remembered!
    Take care
    Lizzie x

  3. Claire Sutton September 16, 2009 at 11:47 am -  Reply

    Oh Rosie,
    Tom saw that with a friend for her birthday treat, I knew it was sad and worried then how Tom would manage. He did fine but I suspect I would go!
    Our cinema brings older ones to the screen, so if you miss them first time around you still have a chance…I’ll go armed with tissues!
    Take care,

  4. Claire Sutton September 16, 2009 at 11:50 am -  Reply

    I smiled as I read that as Pippa, the equally noisy one to my left did much the same with me and one of the girls found herself laughing during the saddest bit.
    It’s that hideous knee jerk reaction to laugh at awful news. You`d have laughed, or cried with me yesterday as our kitten went missing for 9 hours…when we found her Dan had to tell me to let the children hold her too as I was so hysterical. I think I`m losing it!
    Dan’s ordered me to stay out of trouble today and actually I’m so wrung out I’m going to go back to bed. The day must stay calm and happy then surely!
    By the way I was so tempted to dress Tom up asSAUCEPAN MAN on the last book day! Can you imagine the noise and how cross the teacher;s would have been?!
    Lots of love, Claire

  5. Lizzie September 16, 2009 at 5:50 pm -  Reply

    Claire I sadly doubt the teacher would know about Jo, Bessie,Fanny and their lovely friends and my old copy would not be allowed in any classroom nowadays as no longer politically correct! I think the Saucepan Man would have been a great character for book day but you would probably have had to bake some of Silky’s pop biscuits to sweeten the teacher!

  6. Diane September 17, 2009 at 3:53 pm -  Reply

    Hi Claire, Your children will always need you!
    Interesting question about empathy, I am not sure I know the answer although I must confess at being a complete woos and have avoided the book and the film so far, some subjects do cut too close to the knuckle.
    A good comedy is what I like funny tears are the way to go!
    Amy settling much better now, missing her terribly but she seems to be having a whale of a time:)
    Love to Tom & all x

  7. Deborah Hale September 18, 2009 at 7:16 am -  Reply

    Oh no Miss Sutton!!!!
    I have checked out the tv guide for next week…….and you are not in on Monday morning!!! No no…. this is my favourite regular slot. Children back to school, husband at work and I have a naughty couple of hours enjoying your Monday morning banter before I start the housework!!! This is awful what am I to do Claire?!!!!!!!! I shall now be HAVING to start dysoning earlier (Yuk!). Come back soon….. please!!!!!
    Love Dexx

  8. Claire Sutton September 18, 2009 at 10:40 am -  Reply

    Morning Deb,
    I know, it’s them upstairs, aparently they needed me for other things, fashion, beauty etc so swapped me. I must say it is not right is it?! Mind you Debs and I had a very amusing 3-hour show yesterday – I half expected us to be warned!! I shall be on at 4pm on Saturday just for Liz Earle, but September’s really doolally, I feel all peculiar, heh ho. Talking of vacuuming…off I pop.
    Claire xxxx

  9. Claire Sutton September 18, 2009 at 10:41 am -  Reply

    So glad to hear Amy is settling in well, and you?! And I know what you mean about the funny tears, I shall plan that type next!
    Tom is Student of the week!!! He has just begun writing some sentences, so clever and all his class are so proud of him, he arrived home with a certificate, a present and a proud-faced photo…whoo hoo!
    Have a nice weekend,
    Claire x

  10. Claire Sutton September 18, 2009 at 10:42 am -  Reply

    Perhaps with a blonde wig Maddie could even be Silky! I used to buy those biscuits called Toffeepops, ever hopeful…but sadly not the real mcoy!!!!
    Love C xx

  11. Diane September 18, 2009 at 7:55 pm -  Reply

    Hi Claire, Proud Mum!
    Please give Tom a ‘High Five’ from me, a fantastic achievment, also great to hear he has such fantanstic school friend’s supporting him :)
    I’m doing better thanks Claire, things seem to be settling a bit now, looking forward to having her home at the weekend and am planning for 1/2 term (cant wait).
    Missing her terribly but already she has done so much there and has made lots of new friends.
    I still feel I have something missing & her sisters really miss her, but when we see the dedication of the staff and how steadily she is settling and having new experiences, we are reminded that this is the best thing for her and her independence in the future.
    All have a fab weekend
    Diane xx

  12. mandy.nicholls@scottwilson.com September 21, 2009 at 12:41 pm -  Reply

    Hi Clare
    I look forward to your blogs, but this is the first time I have posted. I too lost my Dad at a relatively young age he was 65 very suddenly from a heart attack and the devasting loss I felt at the time (9 years now!) and still feel today is overwhelming however, I have always been emotional, I could cry at an advert my husband says! Is it perhaps age and experience that makes us this way or are we this way from a very young age?? Having children (I have two teenage boys 19 and 15)also I believe makes us very in tune with our emotions.
    Dry your eyes and look forward, do not dwell as I am always being told.

  13. Mary September 21, 2009 at 3:54 pm -  Reply

    Hi Claire, I think that you dont have to experience sadness to feel proper sadness but it does make you more emphatic towards others without being patronising if that makes sense. It also makes you gratefull for every day with family and friends. My mum has had two brain tumours over the past 4 years involving horrendous invasive surgery and a very long battle back to normality. We are so proud of her and lucky to have her, she has battled through thick and thin and both times come out the other side. She was a tower of strength to us when my dad developed lung cancer in between her operations and has battled for both of them. The sadness in our lives makes us appreciate the silver lining times that we are given. I haven’t yet seen the film but bearing in mind I cry at anything remotely sad; Corrie, Holby City, Casualty,SuperNanny, Lassie etc it might be best to watch it on DVD! Have you received the photos I sent you of the Cabin? The patio door has gone in today after a big hole in the wall for a week filled with howling wind and rain and I have painted the hall yellow as a spur of the moment thing. Bright but happy and cheerfull. Take care love Mary x

  14. Claire Sutton September 22, 2009 at 2:40 pm -  Reply

    Hi Diane,
    Fabulous, and so heartening to hear Amy is really joining in, I appreciate it’ll be so hard for the girls.
    Tom had a sleepover with family last week and the others missed him so, though I witnessed a lovely little twosome that evening I was glad when they became three again!
    Thanks for the shared delight for Tom! C xx

  15. Claire Sutton September 22, 2009 at 2:43 pm -  Reply

    A big thankyou for your reply, and it goes without saying how sorry I am about your dad. You never get over it do you, you just learn to live with it. But great advice to dry the eyes, I agree a smile is a far more beneficial and not to mention attractive accessory!!
    With love Claire x

  16. Claire Sutton September 22, 2009 at 2:45 pm -  Reply

    I think you’re either born with empathy or it can be a learned thing too. Gosh, you have such a sad and difficult story. Your Mum sounds incredible – it astounds me the reserves of strength some people have, and for your dad to also be so ill, goodness Mary.
    The silver linings are very special though! I love the yellow hall, can’t choose a more chirpy colour! And no, no pics yet but the mere reading of holes, rain and gales has put fear in me.!
    Thinking of a blog showing dodge hair do’s over the years what do you think? Found my old portfolio… say no more!
    Love Claire

  17. Deborah Hale September 23, 2009 at 8:55 am -  Reply

    Hello Claire,
    A blog with dodge hair do’s would be fab!! And something we could all join in with!!! Gosh over the years, the bob, the many many perms… afros!!! and I remember copying Pam in Dallas with her layered long hair do that was blow dried under and took ages to perfect! not to mention the flicks and the straighteners…..gosh, GO FOR IT CLAIRE!!!! It would be fun!!!!
    Although you missed Tom while he was on his sleepover I expect he had a wonderful time and was thoroughly spoilt and felt quite grown up!! I know when my boys went to stay with grandparents how I felt, but the joy in their faces of the fun they had endured!!
    Love the pic of Sparkle. Although Bruce was absolutely gorgeous…next you must enter Mungo!!!
    On a lighter note, I must complain again Claire…NO MONDAY MORNING SLOT THIS WEEK!!!! Another early morning dysoning for me (Something to look forward to NOT!).
    Love Debx

  18. Mary September 25, 2009 at 9:33 am -  Reply

    Hi Claire. I have moved back home as all building work complete and there are no more holes in the wall just a lovel patio door giving me a lovely view of the new patio and cabin. Its my day off today and I am cleaning as there is dust everywhere!!! I will be spending the weekend painting the walls aubergine and cream while hubby take the kids to watch kent play cricket. It’s amazing how men only manage to keep the downstairs cleanish and must believe that the toilet and bathroom fairy keeps those areas neat and tidy! I sent the pics of the cabin and garden over a week ago so am a little worried as to where they might be… The horror hairdo thing sounds good; my mum made me and my twin sister have a perm at the tender age of 13 ( some 31 years ago) as she thought it would cure the greasy hair stage that we were starting to go through along with spots etc. We went to a lady called Hazel ( the mere mention of her name makes the hairs on the back of my neck stick up) at the beginning of the summer holidays and the deed was done. My sister ended up looking like Kevin Keegan and mine was a startling likeness to the old Dierdre Barlowe. How I cried in despair and my sister had hers all chopped off. I remember washing my hair at least 15 times a day for a week, stretching it dry with a huge brush and wearing a red and white bobble hat to do my paper-round in for fear of being seen. Not a good look for a warm July evening!!! Never had a perm since and scarred for life!!! Hope pics arrive soon. Love Mary x

  19. Steven September 27, 2009 at 1:01 pm -  Reply

    Hi Claire
    Just heard you saying you had bruised your leg. It looks really painful. Hope it heels soon.
    PS Great leg shots too!
    Take care xx

  20. Clare Wallace September 29, 2009 at 9:55 am -  Reply

    Hi Claire
    I have avoided the film, My sisters keeper as I will be a blubbering wreck too!
    I lost my mum when I was 22, she was 47, suddenly to cancer within 2 weeks, there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of her. I think loosing someone so early does in time make you a better person, for a whole host of reasons, too many to go into but I think you’ll know what I mean.
    On a cheerier note, please share where you bought thoses FAB purple open toed shoes, you had them on on Sunday when you were doing the leather jacket show, forgotten the mans name but won’t forget him, gorgeous!!
    Take care

  21. claire sutton September 30, 2009 at 10:45 am -  Reply

    Thankyou for your thoughts and yes i do know what you mean,and i know too that it’s the most normal times and often that we need and miss and wonder about those special people who aren’t there any more….Now to BRADLEY!!!! now he’s a man if ever I saw one!!!!!The shoes were from Carvela,who incidentally have some lovely ones this year too, Happy shopping!
    Love Claire xx

  22. claire sutton September 30, 2009 at 10:48 am -  Reply

    Steven…OOOOWWWWWWWW, THAT WAS MEANT TO HIGHLIGHT THE PAIN!!! It’s a divine shade and huge and the whole body is traumatised from the indignity!!I scared the director when i flashed it, think he wondered how far I’d go!

  23. claire sutton September 30, 2009 at 10:54 am -  Reply

    Hooray, sounds fabuloso! We still at zero stage but soon… Now the deidre barlow look? I remember a hair show I did for Charles Worthington, no one would listen when I said “my hair curls really easily”. Oh my word, I was Deidre and there was nothing that could be done to lesson it before the show…not a masterpiece for him thats for sure..!!!
    No Pics still, and off to scan the hairdo pics in…watch this space!
    Lots of love Claire x

  24. Joanna Downey September 30, 2009 at 8:37 pm -  Reply

    Hello Claire, I’ve only just caught up with your blog, to answer your question I think that some people are understanding and emotional and others are more distant and colder. However,I can’t imagine that anyone seeing a parallel situation to something they have experienced themselves can’t fail to be moved.I grizzle over anything; brass bands, Christmas carols, anyone unloved and badly treated – animal or child, Beth dying in “Little Women” the list goes on…I read Jodie Picoult’s book as a bedtime book which was a big mistake as I woke each morning looking like I’d spent the previous evening in a boxing tournament. I just prefer to be with those who care and feel because I’ve known brittle people who have never shown their feelings, and despised those who do, suddenly face problems and can’t understand why they’re on their own. Enough chat, WELL DONE Tom you’re a huge * Love Jo in Stourbridge.

  25. Steven October 1, 2009 at 10:05 am -  Reply

    I have to admit Claire I was wondering that too! Ha Ha
    Hope it heels soon. I still thought you looked amazing if it’s any consolation!

  26. Anita Belding November 1, 2009 at 6:17 pm -  Reply

    Hi Clare I am new to your blog, don’t be ashamed of a good old cry, good for the soul(my old mum use to say ) but sometimes these thing upset you and you think about them for day’s . you are a lovely person and my favourite presenter on QVC you always make me smile.I love your wedding and engagement ring’s were they specially made or is that a cheek to, ask love to you and the family x Anita

  27. Joanne Green November 22, 2009 at 11:28 pm -  Reply

    Hi Claire
    I read your latest blog with interest..I haven’t seen the film, and nor do I think I would be brave enough. I do think that you can empathise with people without having gone through any sort of traumatic experience or sadness yourself…I certainly feel that way. Now that I have experienced a terrible loss (my six year old son died very suddenly in April) it makes the subject even more relevant to me, and provoked a lot of thought. I am definitely a naturally emotional person, always have been, and obviously more so now, but the ‘empathy’ for other people has always been there.
    Love watching you on your shows, you brighten the day!
    Take care

  28. claire sutton November 28, 2009 at 3:40 pm -  Reply

    Anita,I`ve just looked babck to my blog and found you, Thankyou so much for your comments, and yes I did cry for days! Actually I saw the film advertised on tv soon so….watch out here i come again.Thankyou for liking my rings, I still love them 10 years on, Yes it was made for me, well half for me, the jeweller had begun the ring, but it became mine!! and he made my band to melt in. Lots of love and bye for now,
    Claire xxx

  29. claire sutton November 28, 2009 at 3:45 pm -  Reply

    Oh Joanne, I was shocked to read about your son and can only say how are you? and how dredfully sad for you and your family…words really are so insufficient sometimes.I wish you strength to move through this part of your life….
    From one emotional girl to another…Much Love to you and thinking of you,
    Claire x

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