5 ways to feel on top in 2017

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Earlier this year, in one of the comment sections below one of my blogs, a lovely lady called Suzanne asked me if I would do one on coping with mid life. She said, “so many ladies get traded in for a younger model, and being single when you’re slightly older, isn’t as easy as it was in your 20’s and 30’s. I’d be interested on your thoughts on how you went about this transition in your life and how you got your head around things”.

So, I figured approaching New Year was the perfect time to discuss this as I reckon that this is a good time for a little bit of life assessment. When it comes to relationships, they are rarely straight forwards and being married for a second time has a number of challenges that I never saw coming, particularly with four children in the mix. It makes for a wonderful concoction but believe me, it’s not plain sailing and I would say that I’m still working out the transition so I will do my best at sharing the things that I have found helpful….

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1: Look Up and Out

I think with so many self help books around these days we can fall into the trap of being overly concerned with ourselves and where we are at, “naval gazing” as I have heard it referred to. Whilst I put great importance in the value of self-awareness, I think maintaining the balance is vital and having the ability to look up and out at the world around us enables us to maintain perspective rather than become overwhelmed by our situation.

There is so much need on our own doorstep, whether it is helping a friend, a neighbour, or getting involved with local charity groups. Giving time to enrich someone else’s life always helps to put things into perspective and helps us be glad for what we have. As they say, it’s better to want what you have rather than to have what you want. Not only that, you could always tell yourself that it could be worse ….which as glib as it sounds, it could.

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2: Try something new

I read not long ago that often time feels as though it’s going quicker as we get older because we aren’t injecting anything new into our lives. So whilst managing the transitions of life, I have found that taking up a new hobby or activity allows us to experience the newness of our new era. Maybe take up a sport or learn a new skill or language, explore cookery books, just change things up a bit and do something that offers a bit of change and a challenge. For me, when I turned 40 I decided to finally take up riding as owning a horse was something I had always longed for since childhood.

Just over three years later, (earlier in 2016) I got my first horse Beth, and I have to say I have found the entire process to be wildly exhilarating, challenging and everything in between. I can honestly say that having her in my life has massively added to my sense of happiness and fulfilment. Now, I’m not suggesting everyone goes out and leaps on the back of a horse, but perhaps you could join a choir, or the WI, the golf club, a book club, or a walking or crafting group.

It could be anything as long as it puts a smile on your face and makes you feel good from the inside out! (and if you meet new people along the way, it’s an added bonus!) 😉

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3: No regrets

Goodness me we’ve all made them haven’t we? I know this is easier said than done, however I do find that when it comes to managing disappointments which inevitably build up over the years, that it does help to keep facing forwards rather than dwelling on what could have been. In Dory’s words “just keep swimming, swimming, swimming”.

I heard once that the Chinese consider beauty in imperfection, rather than in perfection which I found a really helpful image. If we could only be a little kinder to ourselves and a little more ok with life being a bit messy, we would feel so much freer to embrace the moment and live for the future.

Odds are that if we don’t make mistakes, we’re not really living, we are just sheltering ourselves from them just in case and I don’t think any of us will be happy about that once we get to the end of the road. So just get on with living and if you fall down, just pick yourself up and keep on going!

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4: Look after yourself (or you’re no good to anyone else!)

Eat well, sleep well and spend time with those you love. These are basic human needs that so often get overlooked with the busy nature of life, now more than ever. We need sleep or we just can’t function. We need to eat well or our bodies struggle to be at their best. And without sharing the love with those around us, be it family or friends, then quite honestly, what is the point?

Our family has made a pact for 2017, that we will make no plans other than fun social things to do together on Sundays and no phones will be allowed! #bringbackSundayisforfamily

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5: Give your look an MOT (modernise, observe, tweak):

It doesn’t have to be expensive however, doing the same thing with your hair and make up year after year after year can really drag you down. The same goes for our wardrobe. Just make little tweaks here and there to modernise your look and help you feel on top of things rather than racing to catch up.

It certainly doesn’t have to cost a fortune, it can be a slight change to where on your eye you put your eyeliner, or a different shade of lipstick, changing the way you tie your scarf or wear your hair. Remember that we can often influence how we feel by how we look.

So if you move your look along, then it helps you feel more as though you are alive in the moment, whereas if you look stuck 20 years ago, each time you look in the mirror, you are taken back to those years and you will often find yourself focussed on the past rather than the present.

So Suzanne, I hope I sort of answered your question?! Each of these points could be a blog in themselves and I am sure I could come up with more but I think these are handful enough for us to take into 2017 so that it becomes a year of positivity and change for us all. Our lives belong to us and only we can set the tone.

So thanks for another great year at QVC, I’ve loved all the laughs we’ve had on air and via social media.
Here’s to many more ….

Much love as always

Pipa x
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37 Comments

  1. clare December 30, 2016 at 6:40 pm -  Reply

    Thanks so much for your caring & genuine blog…. how refreshing not to have erm…’product suggestions’ added in.

    Let’s have more like this in 2017 pleeeease.

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:00 am -  Reply

      Hi Clare, thank you for your reply …I know it’s hard sometimes getting that balance between what we do and who we are, I hear you loud and clear xx

  2. pamela Richards December 31, 2016 at 10:18 am -  Reply

    Pipa that was a very honest Blog , I take from it the part of being Kinder to not only oneself but to others !! so that leaves a lot to do and the part about trying New things sometimes as one gets older I have found I am not scared to have a go and if it does not work as well as I would like does it really matter ? no !! xPamela

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:01 am -  Reply

      Hi Pamela, oh you’re so right regarding the not getting hung up over it if it doesn’t quite go to plan! I’m right in the middle of something like that right now ….watch this space 😉 xx

  3. Carol T December 31, 2016 at 11:07 am -  Reply

    Thanks Pippa, great and useful read, happy 2017

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:01 am -  Reply

      Happy 2017 to you too Carol, thank you xx

  4. jo tometzki December 31, 2016 at 11:54 am -  Reply

    Well said Pippa:) Happy New year!

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:02 am -  Reply

      And to you too Jo, thank you xx

  5. Kylie Gottsche December 31, 2016 at 3:20 pm -  Reply

    Thank you for taking the time for the great advice…I am going to look into making 2017 a big step in a positive direction happy 2017

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:03 am -  Reply

      My absolute pleasure Kylie, I hope it works for you too. Happy 2017 xx

  6. lorraine December 31, 2016 at 9:15 pm -  Reply

    hi pippa was blown away by your wise words and they totally resonated with me and sure many others–love beth pic-what stirrups are you using x

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:05 am -  Reply

      Thanks Lorraine 🙂 My stirrups are flexi ones as I have rather dodgy knees so have to be careful. I can’t remember if they are Shires or another brand though …they are also super light so it makes the saddle far less weighty for me to lug around and for Beth too! Ill check to see if there’s a brand name on them when I ride tomorrow xx

  7. CJ January 2, 2017 at 12:46 am -  Reply

    Fantastic blog Pipa, I will certainly put into practice a lot of what you have mentioned in this blog. I wish you and your family a fantastic 2017. x

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:06 am -  Reply

      Hey CJ, thanks for that and thank you for all your great interaction on twitter during the shows, it’s always really appreciated when you guys get involved ….and I’m sure it’s nice for other viewers to hear from each other rather than just listening to us so please keep it up xx

  8. Linda Dunn January 3, 2017 at 12:13 pm -  Reply

    Hi Pipa, Happy new year to you and your family .What a great blog, So agree with the family day & NO PHONES, so many parents say they don,t have time to do things with the kids even eat together at meal times, It goes to show you can if you make the effort, good luck with it all.x Linda Dunn

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:07 am -  Reply

      Thanks Linda, yes we always do no screens on holiday too. People think I’m mad not taking my phone with me but I think they are mad for doing the opposite!! We ALWAYS eat together too! I can’t bear the thought of separate meals!! Happy new year xx

  9. Sarah January 3, 2017 at 8:11 pm -  Reply

    Very well said, postive & encouraging, Thank You x

    • Pipa Gordon January 4, 2017 at 10:08 am -  Reply

      It’s a pleasure Sarah, happy new year xx

  10. Susan January 4, 2017 at 6:01 pm -  Reply

    Happy new year pippa! Sorry it keeps coming up pops when I spell your name correctly lol! I loved your wise words pip. They’re not pushy or annoying but just right and knowing your story it makes it even nicer. I hope you all have a good year. Any big exams for the kids? Chat soon x

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:10 pm -  Reply

      Ha ha Susan, I’ve a friend who actually now calls me Pops for that very reason!! Thank you for your kind words. I’m not sure if we do have any major exams this year actually, we’re in years 7 and 8 so nothing gruelling although Beely may do her Grade 4 ballet …we shall see!! Best wishes to you, I hope you’ve not been too cold of late with all this snow xxx

  11. Paula January 5, 2017 at 1:59 am -  Reply

    Very wise words indeed. hope I will be able to use some of your suggestions this year. Bit older than you but it’s never too late to change things. Wishing you and your family a very happy and healthy 2017 x

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:11 pm -  Reply

      Thanks Paula, no indeed we are never too old …my grandmother kept changing all sorts right to the very end so in many ways she is my inspiration xx

  12. Daisybelle January 5, 2017 at 2:04 pm -  Reply

    Hi Pipa I thoroughly enjoyed that blog, actually made me fuzzy inside reading it. You have such a way with words that just makes so much sense especially the u and outwards one. It is really hard as we get older as our purpose in life sometimes fades and we have to find a new purpose. Life does not always work out as we had hoped and you are right we have to look up and out. Here’s to 2017, more great and inspirational blogs along with your fashion tips. You look very happy since you moved to your new life and you so deserve it. Though we do miss you not being on our QVC screens often enough.

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:12 pm -  Reply

      Hi Daisybelle ….I love the fact that you felt fuzzy!!!! Thank you 🙂 I hope that 2017 is a good year for you, here’s to up and out!! xxx

  13. CAROL PRESCOTT January 6, 2017 at 10:25 am -  Reply

    hi Pipa, love your blogs, totally agree with your comments and Daisybelle’s about trying something new as we get older, my new year resolution last year was to lose 2 stone as I felt so unhealthy and frumpy, at 53 I had never dieted in my life , but with lots of family events last year and my daughter’s wedding coming up this April I had an incentive to do something about it. I joined a keep fit group and do aerobics and zumba 3 times a week, cut out lots of junk food etc and lost 2 stone by October. I have a new social life with the fantastic ladies from our keep fit group and feel so much better about myself especially when shopping for clothes, back in size 10 and 12 clothes. It’s never too late to change things in life you are not happy with! Here’s to a happy and healthy 2017 to you all.

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:14 pm -  Reply

      Hi Carol, well done you!!! I am sure many will be inspired by your words. I think sometimes when we join a group to learn something new or achieve a particular goal, that extra support really makes a huge difference! I have literally, 5 mins ago, sent an email to join a riding club and start doing dressage tests next month, knowing that we have others around us with the same goal definitely helps!! Happy 2017 and I hope the wedding goes really really well!! Much love P xx

  14. theresa January 6, 2017 at 7:21 pm -  Reply

    Love reading your blog about change as we get older. I made small changes last year like walking more, changing my hairstyle and being more adventures with my clothes wearing brighter colours and styles, little steps but getting there and this year even though I”m contemplating retiring in the next twelve months I am going to see about becoming a volunteer. Hope you and your family have a wonderful year x

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:15 pm -  Reply

      Ooh exciting times ahead for you then Theresa!! I heard on the radio last week someone saying that volunteering makes you more happy than money …I don’t dispute it for a second!! Go for it! Very best wishes, Pipa x

  15. Jill January 7, 2017 at 4:21 pm -  Reply

    Hi Pipa as others have said what an inspiring blog, your wise words will stay in my thoughts as we begin the new year. I wonder if you are still continuing to write on your own website. I really enjoyed the topics which were up for discussion there. My heartfelt thanks for all your kind and thoughtful words on the QVC blog and I wish you and your children, and lovely husband all the best for 2017. Jilly

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:16 pm -  Reply

      Hi Jill, thanks for your very kind comments 🙂 With regards to my website, I got hacked last year and lost the whole thing!! I’m working on something new at the moment though so I’m trying to not let it bother me …..although it was VERY annoying!!! xx

  16. Elizabeth Keenan January 12, 2017 at 7:39 pm -  Reply

    Hi Pipa
    What a great blog as usual, giving us lots of things for thought, that was really lovely.
    Did not make any resolutions this New Year, just going along with things, when you try to make a commitment to do something it can be hard if you do not manage it. Wishing you and your family health and happiness for 2017.
    Much love
    Elizabeth X

    • Pipa Gordon January 13, 2017 at 1:17 pm -  Reply

      Hi Elizabeth, yes goals don’t work all the time I agree with you, although it definitely helps if you have people on board with you for those days when you want to jump ship!! Wishing you all the best for 2017, much love P xx

  17. rose broomfield January 15, 2017 at 9:18 am -  Reply

    Hi Pippa Happy new year loved your blog so honest and refreshing, my three kids are grown up now but when they were young made sure we all sat together at meal time felt it was very important and my son who lives in Scotland does it with his two children

    • Pipa Gordon January 16, 2017 at 11:03 am -  Reply

      Hi Rose, thanks for your message. I actually think it’s more effort to NOT sit together! You end up cooking endlessly ….well done your son for keeping it going! We need to protect family time so much more than generations before as shops and work life seems to be 24/7 these days xx

  18. Jill January 16, 2017 at 2:10 pm -  Reply

    Oh Pipa I’m so very sorry your website was hacked.. what an absolute shame. Why do people think it is ok to destroy all your hard work?
    What a real shame. My heartfelt thanks for all the hard work you put in.
    These things are sent to try us. As I always say onward an upwards, these folk will be just where they always are.. at base camp unable to move on. Love to you always. Jill X

    • Pipa Gordon January 18, 2017 at 8:16 pm -  Reply

      Aww Jill thank you so much. xx

  19. Lucy Douglas de Fenzi February 27, 2017 at 8:08 am -  Reply

    Hi Pipa – great read. I am a single (but dating) mum of four, work full time and also have lots of animals so I can relate. I’m interested in finding out more about your online magazine – could you post the details please?

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